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Falling through the gaps: the story of a suicide



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Mar 23, 2009
When Martin Strain felt he required psychiatric help for his long-term depression, he found himself assigned to a self-help course with 50 strangers and paper questionnaires for company.

He completed just four sessions. Two months later, the IT analyst from Batley, West Yorkshire, was dead. His wife, Lyndsey, found him at home. The cause of death, given at his inquest last month, was asphyxia. The verdict: suicide. He was 34.

Strain’s family do not seek to blame. But they believe his story highlights the small gaps in the mental health system through which hundreds of young men fatally slip each year. At the time of his death, he had already been waiting two months for an appointment with a psychiatrist, and had another two months to wait.

Falling through the gaps: the story of a suicide | Society | The Guardian


Nov 25, 2014
Ive been waiting 3 1/2 months for CBT, hopefully any day now I'll hear but then I'll prob just freak out about having to actually go and talk about me.


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Jun 6, 2014
South west
It's so sad when a statistic becomes a real person. I feel so sorry that he was let down by the system. He certainly gave many signals that he was thinking of suicide, but like a lot of men, sought to put a brave face on it.


Jan 15, 2013
I was given a urgent referral to two places (CMHT and a place my county uses for talking therapies) by a Hospital psych when I was in for a Overdose.

The place for talking therapies took 8 weeks to follow me up after a phone call from my GP who was spitting mad at them and even after my GP rung CMHT they never did anything.

Last Thursday I was given another urgent referral to see a Pdoc/CMHT asap after telling my GP of my plan, dates and all and that I wouldn't stay safe and 6 days later I have had nothing and am not expecting anything.

One day people will come out of their arses and actually figure out that people with MH problems need a lot more help, patience and support than we get.


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Oct 19, 2009
northern ireland
I honestly don't think they take mental health that seriously.....I took an overdose a few yrs ago, seen a psychiatrist and that was the last time I was ever seen by anyone...only gp who kept increasing ADs, was referred 4 yrs ago again, told they couldn't do anything as it stemmed from abuse.....and now I'm waiting again, maybe I'm not ill enough in their eyes, but I struggle, I SH because I don't know how else to deal with things, and my kids suffer.....my 10 year old has watched me break down so many times, she shouldn't have to deal with that. I don't know how else to get them to listen. :low:


Well-known member
Aug 17, 2012
The West Country
That is really sad. I hope the poor man is at peace now. :low:

Unfortunately I don't think this is a unique case. I think this sort of thing happens a lot, and mental health teams - for whatever reason - are totally inadequate. I'm not necessarily saying it's down to the people who work in mental health, I suspect a lot of it is lack of funding too.
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