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Faking DID?

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Avalanche

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Ugh, why cant we delete our posts? I tend to share more than i like sometimes so please ignore my last post, makes me cringe reading stuff i've wrote
 
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I was wondering if anyone with did has experienced silence before? Today my head is silent and it feels uncomfortable, like something bad is going to happen. I should appreciate it but im worrying.
I experienced silence often,which made me doubt my DID diagnosis or made me think maybe I was faking,for whatever reasons.
 
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I have DID, but have definitely met people who "fake" it.
While I know it is still controversial, I believe my diagnosis is true.

I understand your thinking, and in the real world perhaps that applies. But as they say, birds of a feather flock together. So it would make more sense that people would be more likely to congregate online. The anonymity is comforting.
 
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Hi there,

It's hard to believe, but people do fake diseases. For attention, sympathy, or the saddest: that if they didn't nobody would like them enough.

I had a friend who told me she had cancer. Even went as far as having a ''surgery'' and coming to work with a bandage around her neck. Lied about her grandmother's death, about having a fiance etc etc.. I found out because her lies weren't very good.. (said she had her bone marrow removed in her leg, it's in your back) (sent hospital pictures from google)

But when someone would tell me or posts online they have DID, I won't question that until proven otherwise. Most of the time you can tell when someone is faking a mental illness.
 
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I was diagnosed with DID a long time ago and the scary part of it is that I didn't start experiencing the symptoms until after I was diagnosed and convinced I had it. For instance one day I was walking through the mall and this voice in my head said, "I want to go to Qdoba." And I was like "No, I want to go to McDonald's." I hadn't reached Qdoba yet but somehow I blacked out and next thing I knew I was standing right in front of Qdoba. My fear is if people are pretending to have it they might even start having symptoms of it.
 
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I have been reading/using one particular childhood abuse survivor forum for many years and have noticed that quite a few people join that forum without DID and suddenly start "getting' DID the more they interact with members who also "act" DID. It starts off by wondering about DID, then they start using phrases like "My different parts" which then ends up in more detailed parts until they are full blown alters and the person is speaking DID language (my alters, my littles, being out,) At around the same time they usually also start talking (terrible) baby language which really is just a short hand for texting.

It is cringeworthy to watch as well as infuriating for those of us who suffer/live with it.
 
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I forgot to mention that the same forum has also therapists reading forummembers/clients posts (the forum was first created for therapists who suffered from dissocistion/childhood abuse). I saw one of those therapists face to face and she tried in the first session to put false memories into my mind.

Clients beware!!
 
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I have been reading/using one particular childhood abuse survivor forum for many years and have noticed that quite a few people join that forum without DID and suddenly start "getting' DID the more they interact with members who also "act" DID. It starts off by wondering about DID, then they start using phrases like "My different parts" which then ends up in more detailed parts until they are full blown alters and the person is speaking DID language (my alters, my littles, being out,) At around the same time they usually also start talking (terrible) baby language which really is just a short hand for texting.

It is cringeworthy to watch as well as infuriating for those of us who suffer/live with it.
I know exactly what you mean.It's hard to watch members join a DID forum and go from thinking maybe they're DID to suddenly,within a week or two(sometimes less) start claiming they have it,trying to prove it,suddenly using "we" talk,with elaborate inner sytems,with numerous insiders,talking little talk,etc.

It's usually the ones that self diagnose though.It's the ones that WANT to be DID,act like it's so cool,so cute,so fun,and it sickens me to see.

Nobody really wants to be DID,yet I see people that want the diagnosis.Some that complain because their therapists won't give them the diagnosis.Are you fkn kidding me?Why would anyone want it?
 
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I know exactly what you mean.It's hard to watch members join a DID forum and go from thinking maybe they're DID to suddenly,within a week or two(sometimes less) start claiming they have it,trying to prove it,suddenly using "we" talk,with elaborate inner sytems,with numerous insiders,talking little talk,etc.

It's usually the ones that self diagnose though.It's the ones that WANT to be DID,act like it's so cool,so cute,so fun,and it sickens me to see.

Nobody really wants to be DID,yet I see people that want the diagnosis.Some that complain because their therapists won't give them the diagnosis.Are you fkn kidding me?Why would anyone want it?
Yes you would think the ones with a diagnosis are the ones who live with/suffer from DID but all too often therapists are very keen to diagnose DID in a client, it pushes up their status in that profession as they will then usually write essays of that client, hold workshops or become in some other way "experienced" in DID.

I think the DID thing that is sweeping over the internet is not just created by client but also by therapists. It is a mutual thing which, I would argue, has a lot to do with attachment issues on both sides.
 
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Hi Folks

Its a good question to raise.

We all dissociate, no matter who we are, for some it becomes problematic when it takes over their life to the point of not functioning very well, for others they don`t know they do it.

I struggle with a dissociative disorder NOS, have done since I was a child, a lot from being beaten so much I was looking down upon myself getting beaten up. It doesn`t prevent me from functioning in life but it does make things really difficult especially when its coupled with the depression and anxiety, its quite hard work because I feel no motivation to do things and spend a lot of my time in a little dream world (which I hide from folk, I`ve had many years of practice!).

Why would anyone want to fake it?

I`m not sure, I guess there are a multitude of reasons why people fake these things. For some its hard to live in reality so they tell themselves and others they have dissociative identity disorder or depression etc. Whatever`s gone on, I think for a lot of people who present themselves this way are struggling with emotional maturity, I don`t mean that in a negative way at all, I just think that lot of us are brought up by parents who are not fully emotionally matured themselves and find it difficult to deal with children growing up so they behave in the only only way they know. For me, my parents were not emotionally mature and left me with quite a few things to live with.

I`ve also noticed for some like myself, my emotional maturity doesnt match that of my academic intelligence (I know this is a huge area of debate), I have a degree but cannot find work with it, I struggle with interviews and thats before I even start a job, I also struggle with communicating with people, I find it really quite difficult, I cannot stand up in front of a group of people because my brain just locks up tight, blocks any access to my thoughts, its really irksome. So, I am working in a job that doesnt match my CV, consequently I find myself really bored in my job as there isnt a lot for me to get my academic brain into, I dont feel challenged at all, so I find I float from one job to another. I feel like I am an extrovert locked inside an introvert!!

The other thing I`ve noticed is that so many people dont` realize they have a disorder of some kind until they are diagnosed, it just shows really how much people really don`t know about mental health, I keep thinking no wonder there is so much stigmatism surrounding mental health. I know its difficult to diagnose people with a mental health condition because that is a label and labels stick with people unfortunately, I know that because when I go to the GP for my stomach ailment, I am told its just a stitch (thats because GAD is written on my notes an I have never ever formally been diagnosed with it), no its not a stitch its actually a hernia!! But hey am just am anxious person who cannot distinguish between a stitch and a hernia, its daft because I know exactly what a stitch feels like well I should do because I do marathons, fell running etc am quite a fit person. Anyway I digress...!!!
 
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Yes you would think the ones with a diagnosis are the ones who live with/suffer from DID but all too often therapists are very keen to diagnose DID in a client, it pushes up their status in that profession as they will then usually write essays of that client, hold workshops or become in some other way "experienced" in DID.

I think the DID thing that is sweeping over the internet is not just created by client but also by therapists. It is a mutual thing which, I would argue, has a lot to do with attachment issues on both sides.
I agree,but I also don't believe true DID can be created by a therapist,either a person has it or they don't.I don't believe the true disorder can be faked in a professional setting,I believe a well trained professional can tell the difference in a true case and a fake case.

I definitely believe DID is a real disorder,but I don't believe many of the people online claiming they have it really do.I don't think it's as rare as what people believe,but also don't believe it's as common as it's presented online.
 
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Close to nobody fakes to have this, if anyone does. What makes you think this way? Also, it is not a highly known illness, so even those that would want to fake it would not know what it was or that it even exists.

A lot of people DO suffer from Dissociative Identity Disorder, usually from severe sexual and ritual abuse. But it can also be from severe physical child abuse. I'm not sure of anything else because I am not an expert on DID.

And yeah, You are coming off extremely judgemental.
 
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I agree,but I also don't believe true DID can be created by a therapist,either a person has it or they don't.I don't believe the true disorder can be faked in a professional setting,I believe a well trained professional can tell the difference in a true case and a fake case.

I definitely believe DID is a real disorder,but I don't believe many of the people online claiming they have it really do.I don't think it's as rare as what people believe,but also don't believe it's as common as it's presented online.
Unfortunately, in my opinion, therapists can and do tell people they suffer from DID when they dont (the therapist's status goes up by working with different "unusual" disorders. I believe that Narcissistic therapists lap this up. There are also therapists out there who suggest things. For example it was suggested to me in the first session that I was a victim of child prostitution because I questioned the DID! therapist 's intention on writing a book about me (which she did with another client). She told me I was abused as a child because I didnt wear a watch etc.
When I went onto a forum for childhood abuse survivors and asked for support and guidance, I received an email shortly after from this DID therapist telling me she read my post on a forum she is a member of (and reads!) and that she will no longer work with me because I "broke confidentiality". Of course, I did (and can) not break confidentiality as my posts where anonymous on all levels, but this therapist knew that I wouldnt take her BS and I questioned her. So she told me in an email she would not continue working with me.
So, I believe that unfortunately there are therapists out there who gain an awful lot by people being DID.

".I don't think it's as rare as what people believe,but also don't believe it's as common as it's presented online."
Agreed!
 
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huggs, I dont mind being judgemental, it is human and I am human and it has saved my butt a few times ;)
 
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Close to nobody fakes to have this, if anyone does. What makes you think this way? Also, it is not a highly known illness, so even those that would want to fake it would not know what it was or that it even exists.

A lot of people DO suffer from Dissociative Identity Disorder, usually from severe sexual and ritual abuse. But it can also be from severe physical child abuse. I'm not sure of anything else because I am not an expert on DID.

And yeah, You are coming off extremely judgemental.
How do you know close to nobody fakes this?And,I do know many people have it,I was given that dx myself.All I am saying is people DO fake it.

And I don't think I am being judgemental,just stating the facts.
 
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