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Eye contact and staring - makes me seem weird and is killing me

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Do you by any chance have any eye issues, blurriness in either eye, or have noticed eye movements being slow/resistance/unusual or any droopiness? Any jaw issues or anything you wear for the teeth or conditions like tmj? What is your lifestyle like? Do you engage in any addictive activities/anything you believe are wrong/harmful? Did you notice anything or any triggers when you first noticed it? Did you practice eg eye contact exercises extensively?
 
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Or (following from my above post) any activities you do/appliances you use for yourself (esp. anything affecting head) that are uncommon/unnatural? Or pushing yourself to anxiety doing anything weird (e.g. certain 'exercises')?
 
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Maybe wearing mouthguard/similar appliances inconsistently may be causing tmj problem which can be linked to eye, eyelid etc and may be causing the problem
 
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eye contact is everything people pick up on it instantly especially people that want to take advantage of you i always had this thing if i didn't respect someone i would not look at them as a kid not sure if it was just my way to signal to someone i don't want to talk to you or whatever i always worry about what signals i give off just being around someone else you pick up on things i dont want to give anything away from the fear of being exploited so i simply don't surround myself with anyone
 
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I have terrible trouble with eye contact. The shrink actually is treating it as an ocd issue and am on escitalopram. The medication is working and am around 60% better over the last few months
 
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This really sucks , I been going through this for 7 years now , the first time I noticed that I had the disorder was when my boyfriend asked me why was I staring at him from the corner of my eye, and I was so embarrassed.
 
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I am pretty gobsmacked reading this thread. I have also had staring disorder for eight years. I have no friends because of it and really struggle to hold down jobs as nobody ever like me. I have been told that I 'blank stare' or look as though as looking straight through the person i'm talking to. Trying to control this consumes so much energy and it inevitably happens and I really can't help it!
For me personally I feel as though it improves when i'm not anxious and not getting hated on by others. But I can't control how others act and I can't always remove myself from toxic people because I have to earn a living!
Is this is mental health/anxiety disorder?
 
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when people stare at me i just assume they have spaced out tbh
 
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I have done some research on the tmj side of things:
in brief, in cases there may be an underlying physical condition like temporomandibular joint dysfunction (eg. due to stuff constantly affecting teeth, bite or jaw position- maybe inconsistent mouthguard use (which may or may not be compounded by teeth grinding, or perhaps cause teeth grinding?)?) affecting the face/eyes:
https://pdfs.semanticscholar.org/4b12/c46c8b9c5681cefa48b47543f744a5f72d75.pdf
Dental Occlusion and Ophthalmology: A Literature Review

"the study, based mostly on peer-reviewed specialist articles..has determined that..dental occlusion/tmj status...exerts an influence on..gaze stability" many other studies also link tmj and gaze stability (eg PMID: 20922171)
I also had symptoms like a resistance, stuck, or jumpy feeling when moving eyes and droopy eyelids (which was asymmetric in my case- slightly blurrier eye got droopy which suggests this interacts with vision, also suggested by study below; call this the 'tmj headache'; neuro/ophthalmology problems were ruled out by physicians) including in social settings.
Another study: "nervous systems and functional pathways strictly connect vision and dental occlusion"- this may explain why my 'tmj headache' was altered by cyl+sph glasses turning into a headache in the jaw.
My symptom onset coincided (with a few months delay) with me switching to wearing orthodontic retainers (invisalign mouthguard that changes jaw position/bite) every other night (switching from every night). I have currently gone back to wearing them every night and may consider using them only occasionally in future (although the orthodontist said maybe not if you're grinding teeth but again not sure if my teeth grinding started because of inconsistent mouthguard use (where mouthguard would be the cause, and would persuade me to change frequency to every night/more or go off them for occasional use) or was independent).
 
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