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Madeleine95

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How do other people respond when asked things like "what have you done to your arms?"

I have quite a good story if children ask "well, I was in Africa once and a massive tiger wanted me for his dinner.."

But I have no idea what to say to adults?!
 
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I used to say something like "Accidentally got scratched on the wall/some furniture". I would make it sound (or say) it was no big deal, so then people wouldn't insist on discussing it further. (I didn't really want to discuss it with them anyway). You think something like that might help?
 
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I'm always honest. They usually ask even though they know the answer already, it's pretty obvious. 'Oh it's something I used to do a long time ago.' That stops them asking more questions. I've accepted it myself so maybe that makes it easier to tell the truth.
 
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Purple butterfly

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I got into a fight with a tiger I must look bad but can you see the Tiger anywhere.... I find people can't respond to it well if they do I just tell them to go find the Tiger and come back to me x
 
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I'm always honest. They usually ask even though they know the answer already, it's pretty obvious. 'Oh it's something I used to do a long time ago.' That stops them asking more questions. I've accepted it myself so maybe that makes it easier to tell the truth.
I'm pretty similar to Viktoria.
I'll say something like "Oh it's in the past now" or "That's how I used to cope".

It is really difficult and to be honest, I find it a bit silly when some adults ask because it clearly isn't accidental.
 
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I find this difficult too, when children ask me I just say I got scratched / caught it etc..... To be fair I haven't had adults ask me for a very long time - my scars now are so obvious on my arms and legs that it simply couldn't be anything else!
I think it's up to you and the situation your in weather to be honest or not - when I was a lecturer I was very careful and never honest if someone accidentally saw a scar! But now, I can say what I like!
 
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