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KarMa
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Hi all, I don't know where to begin, but will try, last year my husband and I asked our housing advice team (we live in a Housing association flat) for some advice about a neighbour who had been harrassing us, we tried to resolve the problem rather than exascerbating it (excuse typo). He had been listening to our conversations (in the heat of last Summer we had all windows wide open) it became apparant when he kept repeating things we had been discussing privately and of a personal nature, he also kept blasting us out with hired equipment plus entertaining his friends up to 17 at a time (in a one bedroomed flat?) (it was really bad) I was pregnant at the time and ended up spending most of my time in the bedroom with windows shut. I lost the baby at 13 weeks. My second in 6 months (my other baby was 5 and half months)
I politely asked the neighbour to stop doing this. My husband also asked him on a separate occassion...quite nicely.
The housing officer came to visit us and took a disc of noise that my hubby had recorded and rough details and suggested mediation...to which we agreed.
The neighbour continued with this tact of behaviour and took to hanging around outside all the time, I went to the CAB and they advised me we could take a photo, if it was for the prevention and detection of crime and told me it was in fact a form of harrassment/stalking. my husband who has medical problems (a very severe illness) decided one eveing to take a picture (on impluse) it ended up with my husband recieving a harrassment warning from the police!
The housing association did nt tell the police we had contacted them first, they made it look like it was my husband haRRASSING HIM. They told the police myself and my husband are under the MHT, my husband isn't under the CMHT and there isn't a file on him there. No one would listen to us, we didn't even get interviewed by the police, apparantly he and his three friends made a statemnet to the police and HA that my hubby had been verbally abusive and threatening. He did no such thing he came right in after taking the photo.
The HA association have made a big deal out of this, the guy in question works for them as a volunteer and wins garden competions, they haven't investigated our initial complaint at all, they have taken sides and they have been awful to us, we have recieved bullying phone calls and they called my daughter a miscarriage...they have also written really intimidating letters stating they will evict us and tried to force my husband to sign an acceptable behaviour contract...if he doesn't they say they will evict us.
it's so awful and I have gotten very ill
I'm under the CMHT and they having known me for most of my life, know I or my husband are not like that and they at least believe me and have been supportive, they recommended Mind and a local housing supporting company who have been present at all meetings and also can clearly see what is going on. The CAB are also involved and are trying to get the HA to communicate with them, but the HA are ignoring them...
I fear the repossesion order on my doormat at any time, I'm in a state of constant terror and have lost a terrific amount of weight (not good for a recovering anorexic, with over 20 years of severe anorexia) I have been put on more meds and am trying to eat, but the strain is killing me.
I have such terrible anxiety and feel so ill all the time.
They have now said that the guy in question put in more complaints, which isn't right, we haven't done anything!
I hope that this will get sorted out soon as I am literally hanging on by a thread.
I never imagined that Housing authorities would ever do this, they know both my hubby and I are ill.
If only I could find some strength, this shouldn't be happening to vulnerable people, it's a complete nightmare, only I never wake from it, it's always there and now the CMHT have decided it best not to put me into groups to deal with my losses etc because of all the stress issues at the moment, plus Ive been weighed by my keyworker and am so scared of getting even iller. I really feel so ill and depressed.
Sorry to use so much space telling you all this, I don't know how I'm going to get through this, I'm all out of ideas and tools for coping!
Thank you for reading this.
Kind Regards
I politely asked the neighbour to stop doing this. My husband also asked him on a separate occassion...quite nicely.
The housing officer came to visit us and took a disc of noise that my hubby had recorded and rough details and suggested mediation...to which we agreed.
The neighbour continued with this tact of behaviour and took to hanging around outside all the time, I went to the CAB and they advised me we could take a photo, if it was for the prevention and detection of crime and told me it was in fact a form of harrassment/stalking. my husband who has medical problems (a very severe illness) decided one eveing to take a picture (on impluse) it ended up with my husband recieving a harrassment warning from the police!
The housing association did nt tell the police we had contacted them first, they made it look like it was my husband haRRASSING HIM. They told the police myself and my husband are under the MHT, my husband isn't under the CMHT and there isn't a file on him there. No one would listen to us, we didn't even get interviewed by the police, apparantly he and his three friends made a statemnet to the police and HA that my hubby had been verbally abusive and threatening. He did no such thing he came right in after taking the photo.
The HA association have made a big deal out of this, the guy in question works for them as a volunteer and wins garden competions, they haven't investigated our initial complaint at all, they have taken sides and they have been awful to us, we have recieved bullying phone calls and they called my daughter a miscarriage...they have also written really intimidating letters stating they will evict us and tried to force my husband to sign an acceptable behaviour contract...if he doesn't they say they will evict us.
it's so awful and I have gotten very ill
I'm under the CMHT and they having known me for most of my life, know I or my husband are not like that and they at least believe me and have been supportive, they recommended Mind and a local housing supporting company who have been present at all meetings and also can clearly see what is going on. The CAB are also involved and are trying to get the HA to communicate with them, but the HA are ignoring them...
I fear the repossesion order on my doormat at any time, I'm in a state of constant terror and have lost a terrific amount of weight (not good for a recovering anorexic, with over 20 years of severe anorexia) I have been put on more meds and am trying to eat, but the strain is killing me.
I have such terrible anxiety and feel so ill all the time.
They have now said that the guy in question put in more complaints, which isn't right, we haven't done anything!
I hope that this will get sorted out soon as I am literally hanging on by a thread.
I never imagined that Housing authorities would ever do this, they know both my hubby and I are ill.
If only I could find some strength, this shouldn't be happening to vulnerable people, it's a complete nightmare, only I never wake from it, it's always there and now the CMHT have decided it best not to put me into groups to deal with my losses etc because of all the stress issues at the moment, plus Ive been weighed by my keyworker and am so scared of getting even iller. I really feel so ill and depressed.
Sorry to use so much space telling you all this, I don't know how I'm going to get through this, I'm all out of ideas and tools for coping!
Thank you for reading this.
Kind Regards
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