• Hi. It’s great to see you. Welcome!

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life. Amongst our membership there is a wealth of expertise that has been developed through having to deal with mental health issues.

    We are an actively moderated forum with a team of experienced moderators. We also have a specialist safety team that works extra hard to keep the forum safe for visitors and members.

    Register now to access many more features and forums!

Ever been accused of attention seeking?

Gail

Gail

Well-known member
Joined
Nov 13, 2009
Messages
272
Location
In la la land
has anyone else with blpd ever been accused of do things for attention I have have just had this from someone who i thought was a good friend. she accused me of this just after my recent stay in hospital and it really hurts. wot can i do to prove to her im not attention seeking please help me. for me making friends is so hard to do
 
M

mad as a hatter

Well-known member
Joined
Jul 23, 2008
Messages
2,167
Location
scotland
yep i,ve been accused so many times but mainly by mh services all i,ve done is not harm myself ne more not show ne threatnin behaviour towards ne 1 and stay out off hospital and yes it does hurt when people call u that it,s well out off order not a very good friend either that says that 2 u
 
iffybob

iffybob

Well-known member
Joined
Oct 20, 2009
Messages
4,859
Location
England
We all have.....

One way or another we all probley have ......... its the stick we take, I have just had an episode, and I felt that I was being treated that way some of the time.

Try and have faith in yourself, that you are not (unless you are), and that others do not understand.

I dont know if its worse or better if they 'do' understand..........

Take care ........... boB .......... :flowers:
 
Gail

Gail

Well-known member
Joined
Nov 13, 2009
Messages
272
Location
In la la land
thanks for putting my mind at rest i beginning to think there was something wrong with me
 
cloudberry

cloudberry

Well-known member
Founding Member
Joined
Jan 26, 2008
Messages
410
Location
North Lincolnshire
Most of my life.

I now am almost a recluse. maybe that will shut them up?
 
K

Karzael

Member
Joined
Jan 11, 2010
Messages
6
DO the last thing she would expect. Ask her for more details. Compare it to what she does, see if its roughly even. Every relationship is a bit of give and take. I once knew someone who said to her friend "My mum just died", to which her friend replied "Wow, I know how you feel, I recently lost my hamster." True story.

Were all designed to be selfish. Society tells us this is wrong and the pendulum swings too far the other way. Like I said, give and take.

As your friend, she should be aware that you dont have her blessed social skills. So she could try helping you instead of being such a bitchy attention seeker (see what I did there?).

"I know I can be kinda self absorbed sometimes, Im sorry. Just point it out to me and laugh about it and Im sure I will rule it out over time."

Habits after all can work for all forms of braaaaaiiiiiin patterns!

IF it is your fault, IF you want to stop it either by self awareness or deliberately asking how she is now and then, then it is all up to your friend.

After all, it could be her thats the problem.

Just dont take it tooooo seriously. Most people arnt blessed with the ABILITY to recognise bad habits. Id say that if she is right, your off to a fantastic start.

Have fun.

R:grouphug:
 
iffybob

iffybob

Well-known member
Joined
Oct 20, 2009
Messages
4,859
Location
England
Ok......... ?

I think the above is a lost post, please return to sender .........:confused:
 
K

Karzael

Member
Joined
Jan 11, 2010
Messages
6
Eh? Hmm, I do have rants now and then fair enough. What should I expand/explain Iffy?
 
iffybob

iffybob

Well-known member
Joined
Oct 20, 2009
Messages
4,859
Location
England
If

If it just a rant then , fair comment, can you just put "rant" at either top or bottom for us thick kids........(y)

The last one I had asked me if I expected a free lunch ........
 
K

Karzael

Member
Joined
Jan 11, 2010
Messages
6
No probs. Free lunch? I wont ask...
 
iffybob

iffybob

Well-known member
Joined
Oct 20, 2009
Messages
4,859
Location
England
Yeh hospital food at that, if I had eaten it, the way I felt, I would have thrown it up on her, with hinde sight I should have accepted .........:mad:
 
A

avoidant1

New member
Joined
Jan 31, 2010
Messages
1
Location
Swindon
This problem highlights the issue of how to communicate with friends and acquaintances about the personality disorder problems you have managed to identify in yourself.

Your friend thinks your behaviour fits the label of "attention-seeking" because she cannot explain it any other way. What is characteristic of someone with Borderline PD is paradoxical interpersonal behaviour, which can be to do with issues of affection and fears of isolation.

At the moment, she is clearly confused and this is distressing for you. Maybe this situation could be an opportunity to share some insight about yourself with her so that she understands you better. I appreciate this may be difficult to do though.
 
F

firemonkee57

Well-known member
Joined
Mar 23, 2009
Messages
8,217
I have been accused as attention seeking in the past according to my medical notes. Often it's used by mental health professionals as an excuse for not helping you in a certain situation- "X doesn't need our help and support,he/she is attention seeking "
 
M

mad as a hatter

Well-known member
Joined
Jul 23, 2008
Messages
2,167
Location
scotland
ur right there they say pd attention seeking it,s a joke it makes me so angry 2 how would they like 2 be called it or some 1 from there family they wouldn,t put up wit it would they
 
iffybob

iffybob

Well-known member
Joined
Oct 20, 2009
Messages
4,859
Location
England
Definitions

Care of - http://www.thefreedictionary.com/

attention
at·ten·tion (-tnshn)
n.
1. Concentration of the mental powers upon an object; a close or careful observing or listening.
2. The ability or power to concentrate mentally.
3. Observant consideration; notice: Your suggestion has come to our attention.
4. Consideration or courtesy: attention to others' feelings.
5. attentions Acts of courtesy, consideration, or gallantry, especially by a suitor.
6. A military posture, with the body erect, eyes to the front, arms at the sides, and heels together


help
v. helped, help·ing, helps
v.tr.
1. To give assistance to; aid: I helped her find the book. He helped me into my coat.
2. To contribute to the furtherance of; promote.
3. To give relief to: help the needy.
4. To ease; relieve: medication to help your cold.
5. To change for the better; improve: A fresh coat of paint will help a scarred old table.
6. To refrain from; avoid or resist. Used with can or cannot: couldn't help laughing.
7. To wait on, as in a store or restaurant.
v.intr.
To be of service; give assistance.
n.
1.
a. The act or an instance of helping.
b. Aid or assistance.
2. Relief; remedy.
3. One that helps: You've been a great help. A food processor is a help to the serious cook.
4. A person employed to help, especially a farm worker or domestic servant.


Its strange we are never accused of "help seeking" ....
 
Last edited:
Top