- Jun 1, 2020
Is it possible to learn emotional empathy and feel a connection with others?
I disagree that "every idiot" can understand empathy. There are actually many people out there that simply don't register with it because its not something that they have ever felt. Others can mimick it to a high level and get by pretending.Any idiot can understand empathy; we do it all of the time when we react to fear; we imagine something happening to us and we imagine how it would feel and we make a decision to avoid it. That's empathy.
However, that doesn't mean you'll give a shit about anyone else though. That's not empathy; it's the application of empathy. For that, you'll need to care enough about someone for it to have an effect.
For example: right now, thousands of little kids covered in flies are dying in Africa from bad water.Do we care? Not really; not until someone puts an advert with sad music on TV. For empathy to have an effect it needs a trigger, and that trigger needs to be important to you in some way.
You don't mention whether this is new or you've always been like it. I'm guessing new, as there's some compelling event that brought you here. People who've not been doing this ever don't see it as a problem, unless there's something that makes it that way.
Do you care about anything? If not, then I'd imagine there's some more significant issue behind it, such as depression or some form of anxiety; those conditions make people self-focused and less able to genuinely take care of others.
Everyone gets empathy, if you consider that empathy is the ability to envision someone else's plight happening to us. If you're standing on a train platform and someone jumps onto the tracks, you'll instinctively move backwards because you apply what you see to yourself.I disagree that "every idiot" can understand empathy. There are actually many people out there that simply don't register with it because its not something that they have ever felt. Others can mimick it to a high level and get by pretending.
Not showing empathy to others is a severe disability. Empathy is involved in every interaction we have and to not apply that empathy to others has obvious and constant consequences. Not the big stuff, just the day to day stuff.I do agree however that if someone wants to fee empathy or closeness that its unlikely they have an innate inability to feel it at a deep level. Most non-empathisers simply don't care to even ask the question because it has no baring on their lives and needs.
And yet, you spend time creating an account and commenting on posts from other people. My guess is that you do like people but find it difficult to deal with them face to face.I can not stand humans, company or otherwise. But i have four pets whom i love unconditionally so i would say yes its possible
Wow ok your brutal. I have no time for normal humans doing the 2 and a half kids house and dog thing. I do have time for humans that are struggling with life or need a bit of help. And i live with 4 little animals that i dote on and would never chage rhem for a a humanAnd yet, you spend time creating an account and commenting on posts from other people. My guess is that you do like people but find it difficult to deal with them face to face.
Animals are easy. You could rape a chicken in front of your dog and, apart from wanting to eat the chicken, the dog wouldn't give a monkey's.
I only mention it because you seem keen to share and offer help to others. What is it about "humans" that you don't like?
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