Emotional Abuse by Family?

prettyflower

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I am extremely depressed and anxious. My mom and older sister are controlling me and possibly emotionally abusive?

I have been questioning my sexuality and gender identity since high school.
A few years ago when I was in high school my older sister read my diary. She told my other sister what I had written in the diary. My older sister was yelling and screaming at me in my room. She locked the door and wouldn't let me leave. In my diary I had written about having feelings for girls.

I have talked to my mom about questioning my sexuality and I have come out to her multiple times. But she has ignored me and became really angry at me.

My mom always ignores me when I want to talk to her about everyday things. She never wants to talk to me.
She is very controlling. She forces me to dress in feminine girly clothing. She forces me to wear makeup. She got extremely angry at me when I was asking her if I could wear guys clothing then I started having suicidal thoughts.

My mom becomes angry at me almost every day for no reason. She is always yelling at me.

My mom hates LGBTQ people.
My older sister hates LGBTQ people too. My older sister is bullying me. She makes mean comments to me and she stares at me in a mean way. My older sister calls me weird. I am constantly anxious, afraid of what she might say next.

Currently I am closeted and confused and still questioning. I am really really scared. Because I am afraid if they find out about me or if they become angry enough they might physically hurt me.

Is this emotional abuse? Do you have any advice for me? How can I cope with my abusive family?
 
Yodagirl

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I am extremely depressed and anxious. My mom and older sister are controlling me and possibly emotionally abusive?

I have been questioning my sexuality and gender identity since high school.
A few years ago when I was in high school my older sister read my diary. She told my other sister what I had written in the diary. My older sister was yelling and screaming at me in my room. She locked the door and wouldn't let me leave. In my diary I had written about having feelings for girls.

I have talked to my mom about questioning my sexuality and I have come out to her multiple times. But she has ignored me and became really angry at me.

My mom always ignores me when I want to talk to her about everyday things. She never wants to talk to me.
She is very controlling. She forces me to dress in feminine girly clothing. She forces me to wear makeup. She got extremely angry at me when I was asking her if I could wear guys clothing then I started having suicidal thoughts.

My mom becomes angry at me almost every day for no reason. She is always yelling at me.

My mom hates LGBTQ people.
My older sister hates LGBTQ people too. My older sister is bullying me. She makes mean comments to me and she stares at me in a mean way. My older sister calls me weird. I am constantly anxious, afraid of what she might say next.

Currently I am closeted and confused and still questioning. I am really really scared. Because I am afraid if they find out about me or if they become angry enough they might physically hurt me.

Is this emotional abuse? Do you have any advice for me? How can I cope with my abusive family?
 
Yodagirl

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Be who you are and don’t let them tell you who you can or cannot love/ be attracted to. I was raised in a really strict Christian family and I am bisexual. When I tried to tell my Mom I was attracted to girls she wouldn’t hear any of it and said it was of the devil. You have to accept who you are and not be ashamed about it. How old are you? Can you move out on your own to get away from them and the bullying? Sorry you’re going through this! As a parent we’re supposed to love and support our children, that should’ve change based upon whom your attracted to.
 
prettyflower

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Be who you are and don’t let them tell you who you can or cannot love/ be attracted to. I was raised in a really strict Christian family and I am bisexual. When I tried to tell my Mom I was attracted to girls she wouldn’t hear any of it and said it was of the devil. You have to accept who you are and not be ashamed about it. How old are you? Can you move out on your own to get away from them and the bullying? Sorry you’re going through this! As a parent we’re supposed to love and support our children, that should’ve change based upon whom your attracted to.
Hello I am in my 20s. I am living at home because I am attending an online college. I have mental health problems, it makes it difficult for me to socialize. I can't move out unfortunately.
 
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Is there an LGBGT crisis line that you could call. I know we have them in the UK so am sure they will be available in the USA. I really think you should call someone for advice :hug:
 
prettyflower

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Is there an LGBGT crisis line that you could call. I know we have them in the UK so am sure they will be available in the USA. I really think you should call someone for advice :hug:
Ok I will look it up online. Thank you so much. :hug:
 
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Hello I am in my 20s. I am living at home because I am attending an online college. I have mental health problems, it makes it difficult for me to socialize. I can't move out unfortunately.
Oh ok, that’s understandable. I’m sorry you’re going through this. Family can really suck sometimes! :hug: