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Driving on bridges and high up places

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Bellarose620

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Hello All,

I struggle with a phobia of driving on (whether passenger, or driver) bridges, over quarries, and even just on the expressway whenever there’s a drop off on the side. Basically anytime the car is going over a large open area or by a drop off.

This phobia provokes panic attacks and I have competly now had to stop driving over them as a driver due to my fear literally makes me feel like my body is locking up and I know that could be extremely dangerous. However, even as a passenger it scares me so much. Closing my eyes doesn’t work.

I want so badly to conquer this. My husband and is very supportive and understanding, but I know it affects him too because I will attempt to plan our trips around avoiding these things. I know this is irrational, and I can’t avoid it forever.

Next year my husband’s cousin is getting married in the mountains of Colorado. We’re all very close and I can’t imagine not being there. My fear has already provoked me to realsearch the exact route to the wedding located and map out/look up videos of the drive to see how high up it is. Yes, it’s sad and yes it’s this bad. My fear is making me not want to go because of worrying about panicking when we’re driving up the mountains.

I plan to seek professional help, but I wanted to come on here to see ifthere’s anyone who shares this same, or similar phobia as me and has any advice.
 
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Hiya. Welcome to the forum. I don't have this phobia but understand that it can be crippling. Do you have to drive there? Is there not a plane you could catch to take you there instead? I'm sure you can't be the only person arriving who can't drive it.

I do sympathise a lot and wonder if Mindfulness might help you? Just a thought. I think professional help is essential here but as you say, it won't take effect in time for the wedding. I hope others will be along soon to give you more advice than me.
 
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Hiya. Welcome to the forum. I don't have this phobia but understand that it can be crippling. Do you have to drive there? Is there not a plane you could catch to take you there instead? I'm sure you can't be the only person arriving who can't drive it.

I do sympathise a lot and wonder if Mindfulness might help you? Just a thought. I think professional help is essential here but as you say, it won't take effect in time for the wedding. I hope others will be along soon to give you more advice than me.
Thank you for the advice and the welcome :) ! I will look into mindfulness. I know I often use that for my anxiety and it helps. Just like my day-to-day anxiety. We are flying there, we live in Illinois, however from the airport to the location of the wedding we have to drive. It’s about a two hour drive, 75% of which will be through the mountains and Mountain passes with direct drop offs. It’s strange, I have no fear of flying it all has to do with that drive. I know once were there, I’ll be fine. I have no fear of being in the mountains, and it looks beautiful. It seems like my phobia/anxiety about it is strictly isolated to actually being in the car driving to Get there. Then I think about if there’s going to be snow on the roads, I honestly can drive myself crazy thinking about it and I know it’s so unhealthy. I want to be so excited for my cousin and Share her special day as she did with ours but it’s like you said it’s so crippling to even think about.
 
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I have found that as I get older I am getting more afraid to drive. Its odd, I used to be very confident but now I worry about every little thing to do with it. I have a smidgeon of understanding of what you are going though.

We have a brief intro to Mindfulness on the forum. But its best taught by an expert.

 
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