- Jun 21, 2019
- United States
So I'm hoping that someone on here may be able to help me get over my driving anxiety or at least help me understand a little more. I'd even just be happy to find someone to talk to who understands my perspective. I've had my permit for about six years now and am no closer to getting my actual driver's license. Every time I get behind the wheel, I just get so stiff and can feel myself getting scared. I've been trying to figure out how to stop myself from getting worked up, but I just seem to start overthinking until I almost shut down mentally and try to autopilot myself through something that I don't even really know how to do. I noticed that there are some places that I feel a lot more comfortable driving, like a highway is easier than me trying to drive through my town. And there seems to be different levels of anxiety with different people that I drive with, although it's always still there. I've been trying to just push through this, but I seem to get into a cycle: try driving, do something wrong, get scared when the person I'm driving with corrects me, do even more things wrong, said person starts getting frustrated, I give up. I want to get through this because I feel like my life is paused because I can't drive. It stops me from doing so much for myself, and it's even gotten to the point where my boyfriend says that he can't see us having a kid when I can't even take myself to doctor's appointments. I feel like the pressure of getting older and not being able to do something that everyone else seems to find so easy makes me so frustrated and makes this whole issue even worse. I know that everyone involved isn't trying to be mean or hurtful, but I just want to know if there's something I'm missing or that would make this easier to cope with. Or maybe it's more of a lost cause, and I should just stop renewing my permit.