Don't know where to turn

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Adamc82

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Don't know where to start really, I'm getting to the stage where I'm close to giving up, not going to go on and and explain why I'm so depressed, I'm a typical male I suppose where I bottle everything up and not talk about it, I went the doctors and said how I'm feeling and she seemed in a bit of a rush and just said your a big lad and to do some exercise like swimming and you'll be fine and sent me in my way.

That was a few months ago and I know I'm getting worse, I have a good day or two then I'm soon back to being very depressed, I'm getting to the stage where I'm scared to go out, won't socialise with friends or even my family, sit there sometimes thinking of committing suicide or wish I had a terminal illness, I know that sounds bad but I just don't think I have any purpose in life I just exist, I've always been very sensitive and I just know if I have a bad argument with my family I'm not going to say anything then I will do something stupid

I've been the doctors and I didn't get any help and I've got no one to talk to and don't know where to turn

Thanks

Adam
 
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Hi Adam, welcome to the forums.
I think the GP you saw was very unprofessional to say that to you, and her advice was very demeaning. It takes a lot of courage to say how you feel, and whilst I don't mean to sound sexist, I think it is much more difficult for men to reach out.
Did you explain that you were having thoughts that life doesn't seem worth living at times and that you have thoughts of ending it all?
I can understand you may be reluctant to go back to the doctors, especially having been misunderstood and not really listened to the first time.
However, I would suggest going back to the doctors but requesting to see a male doctor this time.
I would say at the next appointment that you felt the response you got last time was really unhelpful, to ensure that you don't get fobbed off again. x
 
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It can be difficult to find a male GP nowadays. I have no support either because of where I live and lack of funding. Can't register elsewhere because you have to be living there in order to be able to register there... and they get angry and adamantly say no if I persist. NHS England replies to my emails/tweets but NHS Scotland just ignores me and even has my facebook blocked. Prescriptions are "free" in Scotland but I live in a poor part of the country. Makes no difference that I have a learning disability or that I'm bullied a lot.

Anyway...

I get no support either so I buy ibuprofen -- the best alternative. Sorry that you're not getting any help.

Edit: Where do you live anyhoo? It could be that your local health authorities are strapped for cash and in that case you may have to move elsewhere. But GP won't tell you this obviously.

In the meantime I'm just hoping privatisation spreads everywhere soon and is affordable. It's very limited at the moment and I would have to travel about 50-60 miles to access it.
 
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cherbear

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Sorry to hear that was the response you got ! I would go back and request another GP as that was not a professional response at all they are supposed to give you a form which you fill in indicating the ways you are feeling at the present and take it from there . Please don't let the conduct of the last GP put you off there is help out there which they should be providing you with . Hugs x
 
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Don't know where to start really, I'm getting to the stage where I'm close to giving up, not going to go on and and explain why I'm so depressed, I'm a typical male I suppose where I bottle everything up and not talk about it, I went the doctors and said how I'm feeling and she seemed in a bit of a rush and just said your a big lad and to do some exercise like swimming and you'll be fine and sent me in my way.

That was a few months ago and I know I'm getting worse, I have a good day or two then I'm soon back to being very depressed, I'm getting to the stage where I'm scared to go out, won't socialise with friends or even my family, sit there sometimes thinking of committing suicide or wish I had a terminal illness, I know that sounds bad but I just don't think I have any purpose in life I just exist, I've always been very sensitive and I just know if I have a bad argument with my family I'm not going to say anything then I will do something stupid

I've been the doctors and I didn't get any help and I've got no one to talk to and don't know where to turn

Thanks

Adam
That was very rude of her. The last thing you need when you do open up is someone dismissing you. I know that when I first got ill, a sympathetic GP made all the difference.

You need to go back if you are still feeling so bad, and see a different GP.
 
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Definitlely go and see another GP, she sounds very useless and what a stupid thing for her to say, please do not be put off by this doctor, there are competant ones who care and will try and help not be dismissive
 

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