Don't know how to stop

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Dbot13

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I feel I'm pushing everyone away. I'm distant with my friends and family.

But worst of all is how I keep getting angery at my girlfriend for every bit of critisism. If she says my hair is too messy to meet her friends, I take it as an attack.

She's all but dumped me at this point and I don't know how to stop it. I know it's because she wants what's best for me. But I need advice.

How do I learn it's not all personal attacks?
 
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Hi,
I think many of us would be upset, I feel that way when my family do it.
Therapy might help you learn that maybe they just want you to look there best.
Talking really helps, people can find it hard to understand.
Good luck with your recovery.
 
Deadheading

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If she wants what's best for you, she could start by understanding BPD and take note that she criticizes you at her own peril.

Would you willingly step into a minefield with no mine detector? Being educated about BPD is that mine detector.
 
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AbandonD4Purpose

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Dbot13,
The best way to navigate our personal life journey is often with the help of a mentor! Do you have a mentor, pastor or Christian counselor you can turn to? I am 45 and still need the help of mentors. I don't know if you are a person of faith, but I find that spiritual guidance is just as (or sometimes more) important.
 

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