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Does your pain drive you or consume you

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That is, do you use your pain to grow and change or allow yourself to drown in your pain? Is your pain making you better and stronger or just making you miserable?
 
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That is, do you use your pain to grow and change or allow yourself to drown in your pain? Is your pain making you better and stronger or just making you miserable?
I very much hope it will make me stronger in the end, but right now I'm drowning
 
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Both. Though perhaps that doesn't make sense.
 
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I don't cry anymore. Sometimes I do dangerous things and rely on others to protect me. Am I trying to kill myself?
 
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I'm sorry you feel so low ivy214. I can relate. I often wish I would die in my sleep or in a quick accident.
 
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Since I turned 40 years of age I use all my pain and grief and suffering to grow, and on Monday I am 60 and I feel great.
 
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Since I turned 40 years of age I use all my pain and grief and suffering to grow, and on Monday I am 60 and I feel great.
Happy Birthday for Monday. Glad you're doing well 🙂
 
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Thank you, it will also be 20 years since I stopped self harming so a big day for me.
 
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I don't cry anymore. Sometimes I do dangerous things and rely on others to protect me. Am I trying to kill myself?
Many times I have put serious thought into finding a construction job in Afghanistan. I would make good money for risking my life. Would be nice to have money if I lived, who cares if I didn’t.
 
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Mostly consumes me. When I first thought I was recovering, I thought I could use it to fuel some sort of growth or change and become stronger, but then I "relapsed" multiple times in a row and realised I'm never actually going to get stronger from it, I never actually get "better" enough to call sliding backwards a "relapse".
I just have to learn to exist with it. It feels as though it has already stolen my life, I've lost years I can't get back, lost jobs, lost friends, lost the ability to care properly, lost my mind (I can't even read books anymore and often can'tdo simple tasks), lost control of the life I have now. The idea that people get stronger from stuff like this (in songs, in superhero montages in films, on "inspirational" reddit pages and youtube channels) kinda burns my soul, WHY am I not like them, why can't I use my pain to make myself stronger? I'm a failure. And so on it goes.
 
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What, exactly, would or should it drive me to do?
 
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Mostly consumes me. When I first thought I was recovering, I thought I could use it to fuel some sort of growth or change and become stronger, but then I "relapsed" multiple times in a row and realised I'm never actually going to get stronger from it, I never actually get "better" enough to call sliding backwards a "relapse".
I just have to learn to exist with it. It feels as though it has already stolen my life, I've lost years I can't get back, lost jobs, lost friends, lost the ability to care properly, lost my mind (I can't even read books anymore and often can'tdo simple tasks), lost control of the life I have now. The idea that people get stronger from stuff like this (in songs, in superhero montages in films, on "inspirational" reddit pages and youtube channels) kinda burns my soul, WHY am I not like them, why can't I use my pain to make myself stronger? I'm a failure. And so on it goes.
I can relate.
 
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In the beginning I used it to drive me. I refused to give up and pushed forward at any cost. It had consumed me for some time before I realized it.
 
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Sometimes I wish I wasn't so strong. Sometimes I feel wish I could just stay in bed and not be driven by guilt and responsibility to get up and spend time with my daughter. Or maybe I'm just not strong enough because I can't seem to get better...
 
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