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Does the urges ever go away?



New member
Aug 5, 2019
I had not been self-harming myself for more than a year and I am doing fine for most of the time yet when I am broken or lonely, the urges to self-harm begin.
I have been able to ignore it but which makes me wonder, will they ever end?
Can anyone who has left self-harm for years tell me if they still have urges or do they go away with time?
Also, some tips to cope up better would be good.


Well-known member
Jul 7, 2019
I stopped for 3 years. It is always going to be on the back of your mind. When things go really bad it's the first trigger to get those feelings again.

That's why tis year I relapsed when I got a burn out. You have to be really strong. It's going to be hard but you can do it! How longer you don't how better it will go.

Relapse is scary because all the times you held yourself in. Did nothing with the urge.. it will come out and fuck things up! So stay strong!