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Does pretending to be happy work?

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Seany53

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So I was wondering whether pretending to be happy or watching lots of comedy movies and just generally tryin to be happy work? Playing games or watching funny YouTube vids?
Like pretending to be happy till you forget you're pretending ? Bojack ref I know, but has it or can it work?
 
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I found a quote. "[FONT=&quot]Always be yourself, express yourself, have faith in yourself, do not go out and look for a successful personality and duplicate it." - Bruce Lee[/FONT]
 
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Ummm the self is the problem.... Myself is kinda tweaked up atm. Constantly worrying, waking up worrying and stuff. Does pretending help?
 
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Ummm the self is the problem.... Myself is kinda tweaked up atm. Constantly worrying, waking up worrying and stuff. Does pretending help?
I don't believe worrying about being worried helps, I have never experienced being myself as a problem, I find it very liberating, feeling no guilt about natural human emotions. lol I certainly wouldn't encourage myself to put on charade, because I know that wouldn't really be me, it would be hollow and lacking a lot of depth and solidity, so very weak really.
 
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Aaaaah the old fake it til you make it adage. Works for some I believe and certainly psychologists will say thinking yourself happy will change your mood. Doesn't work for me however, I just don't believe in being fake to the world and more importantly to yourself. Tried it several times and it stresses me and exhausts me. Nope own the emotion I say!
 
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During the days my depression badly flared up, I usually forced myself to watch comedy shows I enjoyed before going to bed; and that would make me feel better enough to sleep. I don't think pretending to be happy is a good idea though, chances are unhappiness can hit you harder if you stop.
 
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No... Flat out no.... If you want an example why not, think about the comedians who commit suicide. Sure make light of your situation, have a laugh about things, but don't send your self into hiding. You deal with nothing, but place massive expectations on yourself. I'd happily listen to an argument to the contrary. But I think it's a dangerous road to tread.
 
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then what does i do seriously?

1. im the only person in my family that's supposed to be the rock. Cant share my problems with them since all of them are either depressed themselves or sick.

2. went to a shirk and got a diagnosis, major depression for a good year at least, meds and consultation too expensive so cant go again and I'm not sure if he'll be of help either way

3. suicide's out cuz family depends on me and i love em

4. Oh yeah, I think the biggest problem is a recent issue with my health that has triggered these feelings. It's a stagnant problem, gets better then back to same again. Been to 5 docs since the end of Oct. Last two were good and gave me some relief but my issue remains.

5. I am not trying for attention and i know you guys cant really help me, I'm just stuck. If anyone has any coping methods please do tell me.

6. currently am trying to work out since it was one of the treatment methods my shrink recommended. Now for some reason, even a 1 kg weight seems too heavy

7. I wish so much that i could discuss all that's been bothering me in person with another human being.
 
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If you want to put a charade on, that's your choice. I don't need to do that to help people.
 
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im asking for help. Im asking for a coping mechanism. And i dont mean a facade for other people, i mean for myself. I want myself to be happy dont really care about other people
 
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Why don't you care about other people ?
 
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If you want someone to care for you, do you not think it's fair to care about other people ?
 
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because im too bummed out about life to care about anything other then myself and my family. Everything seems to be falling apart.
 
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If you want someone to care for you, do you not think it's fair to care about other people ?
in that way i try my level best. I see someone suffereing i do my best to offer help. I love the feeling. But my life seems to be falling apart ATM
 
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because im too bummed out about life to care about anything other then myself and my family. Everything seems to be falling apart.
So you do care about other people, your family.
 
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