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Does my partner have bipolar???

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Garlun93

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I am currently struggling with a situation involving my partner of 4 years.

I was told from the beginning that he has schizophrenia, which I accepted and was something I had experience in due to a past job, so wasn’t something that worried me too much.

Three weeks ago he suddenly stopped taking his meds and was acting very strangely - was getting angry at people and then deciding suddenly he was going to quit his job and start studying. He shouted at his mum because she turned the kitchen light on, he never gets angry so it’s strange for him to get angry anyway let alone over something so small.

The next day when I realised he was acting strange, I took him to the doctors who suggested he increased his meds. Not only did he refuse to do this, he also refused to take them at all - this he has never ever done. I spent the next 10 hours begging/pleading him to take them. Nothing worked and then he suddenly decided to break up with me and seemed overly happy about it, almost laughing at me. He then went off and wandered around town talking to homeless people and laughing to himself. I was in contact with his friend who I knew was going to meet him and they later called an ambulance. I went to hospital and he was in full blown psychosis, he was signing, laughing, running away, screaming...all sorts. It was scary.

He was sectioned and remained in hospital for one week. He broke up with me on numerous occasions during that time, all for different reasons (he doesn’t want what I want, I deserve better, I’m not clever enough for him, he’s in love with Sophie which is a girl he had a failed one night stand with 10 years ago and also became a voice, and now he’s blaming me for becoming unwell as well as making out he’s too good for me and feels amazing without me)

He was discharged from hospital and refused to come home. He has gone to stay with a friend and he is being very cold towards me and very grandiose. He doesn’t want his job, his relationship, his home... nothing of his previous life.

He is usually so loving towards me, and he was recently telling people he was saving up for an engagement ring. We had also been looking in to buying our first home together. It’s gone from this to him showing no love or care towards me at all and almost becoming the opposite to the man I know.

I have been looking up loads about bipolar and I’m wondering if this is a manic episode? He’s on antipsychotics but no mood stabilisers. I feel like I’m in limbo, not knowing whether to move on or wait, or how long to wait. It’s now been nearly 3 weeks since this began and I’m tired, shocked, heartbroken and at a loss for what to do... help!!?!
 
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hi ,I just wanted to welcome you to the forum x im sorry I have no advise but I hope you find this place useful
you should get some good replies soon
love Lu x
 
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I'm no expert in bipolar but my dad had it and when he didn't take his meds the manic episodes changed his personality, he would run off on his adventures and hurt people when my dad's never hurt anyone and it sounds like your boyfriend most likely has bipolar but I would have him checked again.

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I'm no expert in bipolar but my dad had it and when he didn't take his meds the manic episodes changed his personality, he would run off on his adventures and hurt people when my dad's never hurt anyone and it sounds like your boyfriend most likely has bipolar but I would have him checked again.

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Thank you for your reply... sorry to hear about your dad, I’ve been researching a lot about various mental health issues over the past couple of weeks and the behaviour seems to fit in with mania, this need for people to run off and leave their families seems to be common... so devastating for all involved.. do you mind me asking how long your dad would be gone for roughly? And when he came back was he apologetic and more himself?

Thank you xx
 
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He would go away for about two to four weeks and go on and off his meds. He apologized alot for the episodes and him and my step mom were together for about fourteen years before they split, he had bipolar for about 7 of those years when it triggered.

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He would go away for about two to four weeks and go on and off his meds. He apologized alot for the episodes and him and my step mom were together for about fourteen years before they split, he had bipolar for about 7 of those years when it triggered.

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Ah okay, thank you... it’s been 3 weeks since I noticed the onset, but 2 weeks since he started getting really bad and not wanting to be with me. Hopefully over the next couple of weeks there will be some improvement and I can at least start to see some of the old him coming back. Thank you so much xx
 
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