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Does life actually get better? What does it take to get actual help?

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Raindrops1999

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Does life actually get better? I've been depressed since around June 2017 and I've only really gotten worse over time.

What does it take to get actual help? I'm under a mental health team, but I also have autism and I'm not sure how they're going to help me with my comorbid conditions. There is an autism inpatient unit, but I think they are reluctant to send me there. I think they think that I can be treated from home, but I don't think I can because I sometimes get thoughts and feelings of self-harm and I so badly want to act on them, but I'm scared of the pain and also if the scar would remind me of when I was in a bad time in my life. I so desperately want help, but I don't want to take an overdose because then I'd have to get my stomach pumped. Injuring myself is another thing that kinda scares me (not as much as overdosing).

I'm just so desperate for help and can't cope with this way of living anymore. It's like no one at the mental health team takes me seriously. It's like my mental illnesses aren't valid because they're not deemed as life threatening.
 
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Eating ( or not) is a method of self control in a world where it seems you have no control. It might be useful to further explore areas in your life where you feel you have no control, and maybe with professional help, you can work on those other areas. I am not a professional, but hope you can find some peace. :)
 
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Eating ( or not) is a method of self control in a world where it seems you have no control. It might be useful to further explore areas in your life where you feel you have no control, and maybe with professional help, you can work on those other areas. I am not a professional, but hope you can find some peace. :)
That's just it though, I have tried and tried and tried to seek help for my eating problems, but no one is listening to me. I just give up completely. I think starving myself may be the way forward to some proper help.
 
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It is terrible that you have not been given the support you need. Please do not harm or starve yourself. They need to help you now and not wait for you to become worse. Have you asked to go to the inpatient hospital? Maybe you need to be really pushy to get them to listen.
 
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It is terrible that you have not been given the support you need. Please do not harm or starve yourself. They need to help you now and not wait for you to become worse. Have you asked to go to the inpatient hospital? Maybe you need to be really pushy to get them to listen.
I haven't called the crisis team, I don't think they'd take me seriously either. I have called the crisis team on numerous occasions and they always say the same thing, "we will email your care coordinator". It's always the same thing. I don't know if I should call them and tell them what I plan on doing. I don't think they'd take me seriously.
 
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I haven't called the crisis team, I don't think they'd take me seriously either. I have called the crisis team on numerous occasions and they always say the same thing, "we will email your care coordinator". It's always the same thing. I don't know if I should call them and tell them what I plan on doing. I don't think they'd take me seriously.
What a stupid response from the crisis team. When in crisis you need help right away. I do think it is worth letting them know how much you are thinking of suicide. You need to be as open and honest as possible so they really understand how you feel.
 
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What a stupid response from the crisis team. When in crisis you need help right away. I do think it is worth letting them know how much you are thinking of suicide. You need to be as open and honest as possible so they really understand how you feel.
Yeah, in my area they're not very understanding. I might give them a call in a minute (again), but I just don't know if they will help me. I'm thinking more of self harm rather than suicide, but it's still bad enough. I just feel like they wouldn't do anything. I just want help so badly.
 
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Yeah, in my area they're not very understanding. I might give them a call in a minute (again), but I just don't know if they will help me. I'm thinking more of self harm rather than suicide, but it's still bad enough. I just feel like they wouldn't do anything. I just want help so badly.
Please do not hurt yourself. You are hurting and you do not need more pain. I really am sorry you are not being taken seriously. This is their fault and not yours. I hope you can call them and they are supportive.
 
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Please do not hurt yourself. You are hurting and you do not need more pain. I really am sorry you are not being taken seriously. This is their fault and not yours. I hope you can call them and they are supportive.
Thank you. I will try not to do anything, but I just feel like if I do do something, maybe they'll do something to help me. I'm just so tired of everything and just want to live a fulfilling life - but that looks miles off right now.
 
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Thank you. I will try not to do anything, but I just feel like if I do do something, maybe they'll do something to help me. I'm just so tired of everything and just want to live a fulfilling life - but that looks miles off right now.
I can understand that. They have made you feel this way. It is unfair you have not had the help you need. You do not deserve pain to get your needs met though.
 
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I can understand that. They have made you feel this way. It is unfair you have not had the help you need. You do not deserve pain to get your needs met though.
I'm happy that you understand. Thank you for taking your time to comment on my post. I might give them a call tomorrow, but I'm definitely going to phone the specialist mental health team on Monday as well. I will try my hardest to fight and fight.
 
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I'm happy that you understand. Thank you for taking your time to comment on my post. I might give them a call tomorrow, but I'm definitely going to phone the specialist mental health team on Monday as well. I will try my hardest to fight and fight.
You are so welcome. I hope you can call them tomorrow and push the mental health team on Monday. If you ever wanted more advice on getting help then I find MIND very helpful.
 
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