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Does gad change a persons personality?

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Kamsta

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My sister had a breakdown on boxing day and gp says she has GAD.
The thing is she has completely changed for example, my dad broke his leg and was in hospital for over 2 weeks and before this she would have visit him everyday but she didn't go even once. Even when he came home she didn't see him for over 4 weeks.
I totally appreciate she is suffering with this anxiety, however I miss her and I wondered is this what it does? Changes a person? We always used to discuss TV / news / celebrities etc but now never mentioned.
The gp has been more then useless and for 3 months has done nothing, no referrals for cbt no mental health assessment, nothing.
The local cbt place said they couldn't see her and the gp thinks its because they are too busy. I am astonished no one is willing to help. Now after 3 months the gp says he will refer but could be 6 months at least.
 
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Hello,

I have GAD myself and I think your sister could be having agoraphobia. Is she also skipping other activities she normally did? About the discussing TV, etc. part, it could be that she sees little value in certain types of topics. I used to love travelling a lot and kept talking about it. Now I barely want to mention anything travel related.
I hope she will get therapy soon. It really helped me with my problems and I got over my agoraphobia. Best of luck to you and your sister.
 
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Kamsta, it is touching that you reached out to this forum in hopes to connect with your sister again. Mental illness can detrimentally impact ourselves and those around us.

I have GAD, along with additional co-morbidities (other disorders like C-PTSD, and depression). It doesn't change who I am necessarily, it changes how I see myself and the world around me. Which, can seem like I'm different to people who know me best.. especially when I isolate, when I'm known to be very outgoing.

I explain it like this, and this may or may not be what your sister experiences, but imagine with me: I'm in a house. It's on fire. I can't find an escape. I want to cry out for help, beg somebody to save me, my mind feels the heat of the fire... but nobody can see this fire but me. I am stuck here, on the verge of being swallow by the fire, over and over again.

So, to those on the outside, we look safe. Even though it doesn't seem like someone is after us, we do not feel any safer.

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Your sister may have had an experience, or more, that caused this. But that's only her business, and it's her story to tell, if that's the case. So, while we can't pressure our loved ones to talk, all we can do is let them know they have our support.
 
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Kamsta

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Hello,

I have GAD myself and I think your sister could be having agoraphobia. Is she also skipping other activities she normally did? About the discussing TV, etc. part, it could be that she sees little value in certain types of topics. I used to love travelling a lot and kept talking about it. Now I barely want to mention anything travel related.
I hope she will get therapy soon. It really helped me with my problems and I got over my agoraphobia. Best of luck to you and your sister.
Hey there , I don’t think it’s acrophobia as she has 2 kids who she takes to school and back. She visits the gym , and more recently has starting popping in to work. I think you may be right about seeing little value in certain topics. What breaks my heart is that she often gets cross with me for no specific reason then the day after she forgets any issue. I just want her back, there’s so much I miss speaking to her about. Now the evil part, sometimes I find myself avoiding her , then after I feel like such a b***h.
 
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Kamsta

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Kamsta, it is touching that you reached out to this forum in hopes to connect with your sister again. Mental illness can detrimentally impact ourselves and those around us.

I have GAD, along with additional co-morbidities (other disorders like C-PTSD, and depression). It doesn't change who I am necessarily, it changes how I see myself and the world around me. Which, can seem like I'm different to people who know me best.. especially when I isolate, when I'm known to be very outgoing.

I explain it like this, and this may or may not be what your sister experiences, but imagine with me: I'm in a house. It's on fire. I can't find an escape. I want to cry out for help, beg somebody to save me, my mind feels the heat of the fire... but nobody can see this fire but me. I am stuck here, on the verge of being swallow by the fire, over and over again.

So, to those on the outside, we look safe. Even though it doesn't seem like someone is after us, we do not feel any safer.

--------

Your sister may have had an experience, or more, that caused this. But that's only her business, and it's her story to tell, if that's the case. So, while we can't pressure our loved ones to talk, all we can do is let them know they have our support.
Hello
I can’t tell you how much this has affected us all , it’s so difficult and I try my best to understand what she must be going through. Hence why after the verbal abuse time and time again I don’t walk away.
What I’ve noticed is before she was close to myself and my dad and now we are the 2 who she most argues with and gets cross with.
Thank you for the analogy , it’s given me something to think about.

I do hope you have some support. Take care
 
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Hello
I can’t tell you how much this has affected us all , it’s so difficult and I try my best to understand what she must be going through.
You shouldn't have to accept any form of abuse from a suffering loved one. I definitely have been caught in circumstances like this too.

Protect yourself, don't forget to look after you too. It seems she's overwhelmed and lashing out. It's often the ones closest to us that we feel the need to push away.. I wish it weren't that way. I wish the best for you and your family, and that- brighter days find you soon.
 
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I found CBT useless and other talking therapies, sometimes meds are the best way forward
 
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