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Does anyone know about how my benefits would change if my partner moves in and becomes my carer?

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wobblyheaded

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Does anyone know about how my benefits would change if my partner moves in and becomes my carer?

My partner and I have not lived together exactly although we spend a lot of time togther at each others houses. He is thinking of moving in with me. How will this affect my benefits? I have bipolar II. He has BPD.

I get DLA and ESA. I have three children, two living at home and one at Uni.

He gets incapacity benefit and DLA. He has just got the ESA questionairre and is slightly freaking out about it...understandable.

We do both support each other in equal measures I would say. I also have brittle asthma that comes on suddenly usually in the middle of the night so he has to get the nebuliser up and running pretty fast. I guess physically he supports me more.

I was wondering if he should apply for ESA or if he should apply for carers allowance for me and how would moving in affect my current benefits. Sorry lots of questions. I am totally useless with numbers and money. My partner is better but he also gets very stressed about money and when stressed then dissociates and can be out of it for hours or days...this is where he is at now. I am worried that we both find all these issues hard going on our heads .... I know everyone here does..but we are in danger of putting it off and off and our benefits being stopped because we cant seem to get it together to reply to the forms, questionairre etc I guess ideally if he could be saved the medical and stress of all that and if carers allowance was easier and a comparable amount then that would be good. I did look on the DWP website and it seems the carers allowance is about 220 a month whereas as ESA is over 300 a month so much more. But is the carers allowance topped up with income support.

Any advice would be really appreciated.
Many thanks :unsure:
 
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ms bojangles

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I reckon the citizens' advice bureau is your first port of call. They're very supportive and informative and I believe would give you help to fill in the forms.

I can't advise off the top of my head, but all the very very best and hope you guys get together ....aaah! :D
 
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wobblyheaded

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thank you for that
I will try the CAB
 
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wobblyheaded

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Yes thank you Mischief and ms bojangles. CAB..They were great actually. The ladies on the front desk were a bit austere/WI and I was nervous. You have a ten min appointment to explain what you need help with and then they book you in with someone who knows about benefits for 45 mins. He could not have been more helpful. Asked about our diagnoses' but was not judgemental at all. He had a good online programme and he put in all the figures and it worked it out for him. We had all the right bits of paper, bank statements and our own owrkings out so this saved time. We had tried online benefits programmes before going to the CAB but found them very frustrating. I had phoned the various benefit people and they cannot give you an answer or even a rough idea of how the end result (money) will change should your situation change. The programme he used typed it all out in long hand and he gave us copies to take away and read. He tried various situations...what I get now...if that is the right amount ...what we would get if we continued to live apart and both applied for esa and what we get if we moved in together. He couldnt give us an exact figure but I do feel happier now having a rough idea. It seems we would be better off moving in together and claiming carers allowance for each other. I did also get a leaflet with the points system on for esa and it does look like the more medical letters of support you can get the more points. What a headache though.
 
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NORMALSBORING

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My partner and I have not lived together exactly although we spend a lot of time togther at each others houses. He is thinking of moving in with me. How will this affect my benefits? I have bipolar II. He has BPD.

I get DLA and ESA. I have three children, two living at home and one at Uni.

He gets incapacity benefit and DLA. He has just got the ESA questionairre and is slightly freaking out about it...understandable.

We do both support each other in equal measures I would say. I also have brittle asthma that comes on suddenly usually in the middle of the night so he has to get the nebuliser up and running pretty fast. I guess physically he supports me more.

I was wondering if he should apply for ESA or if he should apply for carers allowance for me and how would moving in affect my current benefits. Sorry lots of questions. I am totally useless with numbers and money. My partner is better but he also gets very stressed about money and when stressed then dissociates and can be out of it for hours or days...this is where he is at now. I am worried that we both find all these issues hard going on our heads .... I know everyone here does..but we are in danger of putting it off and off and our benefits being stopped because we cant seem to get it together to reply to the forms, questionairre etc I guess ideally if he could be saved the medical and stress of all that and if carers allowance was easier and a comparable amount then that would be good. I did look on the DWP website and it seems the carers allowance is about 220 a month whereas as ESA is over 300 a month so much more. But is the carers allowance topped up with income support.

Any advice would be really appreciated.
Many thanks :unsure:
hiya,
you will have to sign as joint, but then yes one can do it as a career but the cab is best bet and let them fill your forms in for you too, and also ask them what other benefits you might be allowed,
 
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