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does anyone elses anxiety get worse during the summer?

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I've always felt really alone in this

everyone else seems so happy around spring/summer time and for me, things just feel even worse

I hardly go out because the sun makes me feel even more self conscious and "seen" by people (if that makes sense), I hate wearing clothes that show skin, everywhere gets louder and busier to the point it's too over whelming, I usually get more panic attacks around this time and I hardly have any energy

its only February and I'm already over thinking this because I'm dreading it as the weather gets warmer

can anyone else relate? how can I deal with this?
 
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I wouldn’t say my anxiety gets better that seems pretty permenant year round but my depression defiantly lifts. I’m the opposite to you. I hate winter I alway feel so low and anxious that trying to go out is a nightmare
 
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I wouldn’t say my anxiety gets better that seems pretty permenant year round but my depression defiantly lifts. I’m the opposite to you. I hate winter I alway feel so low and anxious that trying to go out is a nightmare
yeah most people I know like you get worse around colder weather, so I don't know why I have to be the odd one out :/

my mum says during the summer that going out in the sun cures everything but it drains the life out of me and its hard to leave the house without feeling shaky and heart racing, i hardly get that in autumn or winter
 
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I can totally relate to this, Xmas and New Year are hellish too. I can't understand getting excited about another year of the same old shit and new shit that I hadn't even thought of.
Dependant on where you live and whether you're proud of your body, I would advise against showing skin.
Loose baggy clothing is much cooler on hot days. Tell people you have developed a sun allergy if asked. It does exist, my Mum has it. If you have very fair skin then burning too easily is a good answer. If really pushed say you have got concerns re skin cancer. I knew someone who died of skin cancer that started on his head because he'd lost his hair and didn't wear a hat.
After protecting yourself thoroughly against the horrors of summer clothing you are then free to enjoy the mistaken clothes choices of others. Again I don't know where you live, but here there is much to enjoy in the highly inappropriate clothing of other people. It's absolutely awful of me, but my favourite is people, usually women exposing oceans of white or bright red skin in clothes that wouldn't fit their children. Other people's lousy choice of tattoos is another innocent pleasure.
I can't bare other people noticing me either and rarely leave the house at any time but you're completely right. They flock out at the first sign of sun and make an inexplicable amount of noise whilst doing so. I avoid it to the extent of looking like I'm avoiding the plague.
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my body is normal but I'm so pale, I feel I look so out of place compared to all the tanned bodies, I end up being paranoid that everyone is staring at me because of it

but even when I went on holiday to Italy I didn't tan, I am from England as you asked

lol I usually get jealous of girls who are confident enough to wear clothes like that, but some do go a little too far
 
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Before the 20th century having a tan was seen as a sign of poverty and having to do manual labour, hence large hats and parasols for the rich. Completely white skin was revered and even seen
as an essential when defining beauty in the 16th century.
I have always been outrageously white.
If you really want to be brown you could use "product" which most of those you envy are probably doing, but I believe that "pale and interesting" is a good choice. There are lovely long dresses coming into the shops, a sleeveless dress with a light shoulder shawl would probably look wonderful on you.

Conformity is the last refuge of the unimaginative
Oscar Wilde
 
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I forgot to mention that black doc Martins look suburb with the long dress look and they do light weight ones in summer. Black baseball boots are equally cute. xxx
 
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I know how you feel when it comes to Summer.
When I actually 'do' go out, I hate showing off my skin. As I'm quite pale anyway. So I'll always wear a jacket / hoodie or something, which brings even more attention to myself I know.

So it just makes me want to go out around then even less. :redface:
 
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