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do you try and buy friendships? x

Fairy Lucretia

Fairy Lucretia

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i used to but not anymore
i would give people money so they would like me
then lent a large some of money that was never repaid

i can't afford to buy friendships anymore and i don't want to x
 
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Scribblsandbits

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Those were not friends.
Try to find people based on a common interest or something, where you can do activities together you mutually enjoy instead of throwing money at people you THINK you should like and who you would want to LIKE you based on popularity.
 
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Scribblsandbits

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i try to "buy" friendships a bit

i know its wrong
I feel like if someone feels like a friend to me I give them absolutely everything to make THEM feel appreciated. I've been burned by this before, I opened my home to a co worker who claimed she was in an abusive relationship rent free, turns out she and her bf just wanted lower rent so he got another place and she leeched off me. even brought her to my grandparents for Xmas.
NOW I am sceptical of everyone who comes into my life.
 
Hillman hunter

Hillman hunter

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Im guilty of doing this, it usually ends in tears,
and short lived friendships,

i dearly hope i dont do it again,
we have to learn from our mistakes
 
JessisMe

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no but i am usually over generous in giving them things. Like I feel the need to provide for them materially, less in terms of money and more in terms of stuff. I’m not sure why I started being this way and I don’t feel a need or desire to buy people but I don’t like this providing habit i have developed with people so I am trying to let it go.
 
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Zoe1

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sorry to hear that Midnights you actually give people money
that makes you very vulnerable

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midnightphoenix

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sorry to hear that Midnights you actually give people money
that makes you very vulnerable

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I tend to buy things for them that they will like cause that's the only way to be sure they won't drop me like a hot potato the second I need a friend
 
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Too many people have been fair weather friends towards me, which is why I try make them happy and don't tell them any of my needs any more

My needs, I have learnt, are completely unimportant and irrelevant
 
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ontheverge

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Not money but I have been known to have gifts out a lot to friends. That was a few years back. I don't do that anymore.

If someone wants to be my friend, great. If not, that's also great.
 
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