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Do you think you're uniquely different from others in a bad way?

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firemonkee57

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It's hard for me to think others might have the same crappy thoughts /hang ups/worries and flaws that I have . It's as if only I could be that way.
 
SomersetScorpio

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I do feel "different" but I don't necessarily think in a bad way.
I know that I think far more deeply, care too much and am overly sensitive compared to the average person.
These traits cause me a lot of pain, and so in that way it is a negative thing to be experiencing. But overall, I think the traits make me more compassionate and empathetic so in a way they are more positive?
I don't know.

I do think though that a lot of people have worries and self-critical thoughts, more than you'd know. I suppose though that they just don't give them the same amount of energy or consideration? x
 
AndyfromScotland

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I do. As positive as I feel after this morning's appointment I have feelings of envy and jealousy which makes me act in a different way.

I'm 22 and my youngest friend while I was at University was 40.

I often wonder if others feel irritated by jealousy when it comes to how we are treated.
 
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TheRedStar

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I do... I'd actually been thinking on this sort of subject before noticing this thread, as a result of feelings I'm having over a friend going away, and the content of a message my mother wrote to me but never sent (I found it whilst clearing out her old home).

It's awful, and I'm fully aware of the fact, but nevertheless part of me hopes that friends don't have TOO good a time away travelling, as I get scared they'll forget about me and might not even come home.

Also relating to the specific aforementioned friend, I've found myself hating her boyfriend despite never having met him. I've been trying to figure out why this is, and I think it's because he moves around a lot and she goes with him, so I'm scared that one of these relocations will take her away from me for good... I already see less of her than I'd like, thanks to him. It doesn't help that my perception of the guy is something like a real-life version of Leonard from 'The Big Bang Theory' - he genuinely is a socially inept physicist who somehow managed to attract a blonde girlfriend who's way out of his league.

Basically, other people's happiness can be very hard for me to take, and that's always wrong but especially so when you claim to care for the person(s) involved. I particularly despise weddings... I don't need any fu*king reminding that I'm resolutely single while other people have no problems whatsoever in this area, and what's worse is that I'm expected to be actively happy and enthusiastic about the prospect of spending an entire day getting someone else's relationship rubbed in my face.

As for my mum's message though, which reminded me of fallings out I've had with other people in recent years... there seems to be something about the way I stick up for myself which really puts others' backs up. I've been told I have a vicious streak which is made worse by how perceptive I am, meaning I know how to hit others where it hurts. If people are going to strike directly at my own weak spots though, why are they so shocked and wounded if I choose to respond in kind?

Perhaps the problem is that they don't believe and/or understand how sensitive I am to certain treatment/behaviour?

I know this is very classic BPD, but others also have a problem with how I handle rejection... they can become inclined to believe that my reaction is exaggerated in order to provoke pity and/or guilt, rather than being genuine (which it is). I think that being a man makes it harder for others to take my behaviour at face value, as it's such a massive departure from our society's male archetype.
 
clockworkmonkey

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Yes in bad and good ways.
Bad being my other me thats naughty and rude and dark and knows stuff.
Good , being the other me thats able to comunicate with most wild animals without words just feelings.
 
Toasted Crumpet

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I think I am evil like that boy in the book "we need to talk about kevin"

I think most people are not like that

I understand that feeling "special and different" is part of being an addict, at least according to 12 step.

Given that I have been told how abnormal/nasty I am my entire life, I am not sure it is entirely illogical for me to feel this way
 
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Esquire

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Sorry I was too late on this one.

Yes, I do feel alone; concerning my thoughts in general (overall). Even though, I realize, that its likely even 1 person out there/here must share my thoughts, or "think" the way(s) I do, I still do feel all alone. I don't fit in anywhere. So, I isolate.

Not much advice to give; regrettably.:hug:
 
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maria_44

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Yes and No
I do feel alone in my own head and not a lot of people understand that. But at the same time everyone has their own demons that haunt them and just knowing that some of us have the same demons makes it feel less isolating and more comforting that we aren't as alone as we thought :hug:
 
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rosesinthehospital

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I would agree that I do feel different from everyone around me. I think that stems from noone really understanding how and why I behave like I do.
Some people are sympathetic but I feel noone has any real empathy for my situation.
 
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