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Do you love yourself?

LizBo

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I once saw an interview with a little 7 year old girl who'd experienced a near death experience. Her innocence and peaceful demeanor mesmerized everyone as she told of what happened as medic's worked on her for close to 1/2 an hour while she was clinically dead.

She had no adverse effects and in fact, seemed much older than her years. She told of meeting angels and then God, who was portrayed by a man sitting on a throne of clouds with a very bright light behind him.

Of all the issues she spoke of, the most memorable was her explanation about why we're sent here. (To Earth)

Simply? To learn to love. What it is and how to live it.

What is your interpretation of love?
Do you love yourself?
If you do, how do you express it in your daily life?

I'd prefer if this discussion didn't revolve around religious themes. Instead, could we use psychological terms and aspects to explore this topic?
 
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It's 1:45am here in Oz and I don't feel safe enough to sleep. Someone tried to break into my home while I was sleeping last night so turning the lights off scares me a bit.

Sometimes, there just doesn't seem to be 'time' for self love. It's at times like this where the concept doesn't have a place.

I feel a lump in my chest. Apart from being tired, there's something gnawing at me. Suicidal thoughts are there, but barely noticeable.

They say fear is the opposite of love. I sort of get that tonight. Come to think of it, I haven't felt fear for a long while. I'm thinking it might just be what's gnawing at me. It makes sense..

I'm actually feeling the pangs of loneliness, or should I say; aloneness?
 
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Sorry that happened to you. It sounds scary. I'm glad you are safe.

I try to love myself. Some times it's hard for me. I get disappointed. I have high expectations and when I don't meet them, I tend to get down on myself. My T is always encouraging me to talk to myself like a coach. That seems to help. I try to remember to do that.
 
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No I don't love myself after all its myself that caused these hallucinations to happen to myself.

Myself is a self serving little coward who is afraid to admit he wants to be some one else so he makes up lies in his emotions and head about imaginary star trips and other even less savory lies.


One of my little delusions was that I would cure cancer the length my self serving little mind has to go to t love itself is ridiculous.

Of course the other less savory lies my nervous system tells me is that I am the devil incarnate.

Frankly I despise myself have for sometime probably why i got so mentally ill, but all thats changing i called the voices out on all their lies.

I am not the devil incarnate, I was never going to the stars, and i was never going to cure cancer.

I am a nobody loser and thats ok I can fix that I am not dead yet.

I just got into nursing school and that is a worthwhile profesion i just need to kill of my voices and delusions and apply myself and i can live a good life right here in reality instead of delusionville.
 
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In Western culture, the word love is thrown around as a noun, adjective and verb. But what is it actually?

@Coreen
Thankyou for your concern re the attempted break-in. :) Is caring about others a form of love? To me it is.

The fact you're trying to live a life in your own right is loving yourself IMO. Good on you!

@hello513
Being self aware and creating goals while in such circumstances is surely commendable. Respecting yourself enough to buck the system? How amazing you are.

@midnightphoenix
Please think about this statement:
'You ARE deserving of love for the mere fact you were born'
What better reason could there be?

@Sarah63689
It's nice of you to encourage Midnight as you have, but can you encourage yourself in this way too?

"Love is definitely conditional!"

What do you think about this statement?
 
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In Western culture, the word love is thrown around as a noun, adjective and verb. But what is it actually?
Good question. I think we get carried away with a notion of romantic love. Maybe this is where relationships fall down. We are setting the bar too high.

I spoke to a female colleague who split from her husband. I asked why they split, and she said "we just didn't love each other any more".
I felt like exploring that further and asking how their feelings had changed, and why they thought they loved each other in the first place. But I decided that line of questioning was a bit too intrusive ;)
 
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The question i asked my children before they got married was do you like xxx because liking is more important than love. As the love fades you need to like the person your with. You can love and hate someone at the same time but you cannot like and dislike at the same time
 
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I think of marriage more like a partnership. You are helping each other to get through life. You will support the person, no matter what happens.

I think love gets confused with lust a lot of time btw, but I guess that's another subject :whistle:
 
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I don't think it is @hicks
You can love someone but not lust for them. You can lust for someone but not love them.

I think @daffy has the right attitude.

When we're kids we 'wish' for a better life, but as adults we 'create goals'. It's the same with love; I loved my parents 'unconditionally' as a child and was abused but still 'loved' them. Was that love or fear of being alone?

I took that unconditional attitude into my marriage which broke down for the same reasons my parent's marriage did.

There's an adult concept of love, and a child's concept.
 
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@LizBo same here with loving your parents . I knew my life wasnt normal but still loved my mum (my dad was lovely) . Same with my marriage i married for love but when the love went i didnt just hate him i really disliked him as a person and couldn’t understand why I hadn’t seen the real person but i was blindsided by love at the time of the wedding.Hence the question asked to my two girls
 
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I don't love myself, still haven't realised why either, though it probably at least partly explains why I find it difficult/impossible to strike up conversation in group scenarios.

And its also one reason why my personal/self care is very poor right now and has been for a long time. :sorry:

Sorry venting again.... :doh:
 
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Yeah @daffy, looks like we both 'get it'. Hugs..

I remember dating someone and felt 'butterflies' and what I interpreted as 'longing'. But as it turned out, those feelings were actually 'fear'; the same one's I had around my dad.

That person raped me and expected me to continue the ?relationship? That's when the penny dropped. I was recreating the relationship I had with my father.

Love?
 
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