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We all have problems and most of us are not taught how to deal with them. This is how I taught myself to deal with my problems…

Problem -> Solution -> Value

After having my 1st psychotic episode, I realised I was dealing with more than a handful of problems and I was running away from them, avoiding dealing with them and forgetting about them by self-medicating with weed, alcohol and porn. Lying in bed 1 night, it came to me like an epiphany to write down all of my problems… Writing down everything that came from my head to the pen, I managed to discover 13 problems. 13 situations that I needed to take control of and didn’t know how to deal with them…

Most of these problems were past events that were traumatic and filling me with negative energy. The rest were current dilemmas or plans that I had for the future that hadn’t been dealt with.

Writing down these 13 problems, I then thought what would be the best way to fix these?

And so, I created 13 solutions. 13 plans that I would take in order to execute these problems and get rid of them from my life… I set off on a journey to fix these 13 problems, following my solutions… 1 by 1, I started to feel better. Unfortunately, I gave up after about 10 and tried to forget about the rest of the problems. I was contempt that I’d done a good enough job and stuck with the good old marijuana…

The marijuana was great, or so i thought... The problems that had not yet been dealt with, got stronger, and stronger. Ending with them ripping open my mind and producing hallucinations. Psychosis came upon me…

Here, even more problems unfolded. Many traumatic situations from my past, events that I had forgotten about, and some situations I had never experienced before, blew up in my mind as visualisations.

Losing control of my mind from envisioning these past traumas and world-wide problems, they brought me to my parents room, screaming on the floor, crying, and I got sent to A&E…

Coming home from a&e, surprisingly and thankfully with no medication. A thought came into my head about these 13 problems and solutions I’d written down about 6 months back. I decided to go back to these problems and solve the rest of the solutions. The process wasn’t finished however, I needed to find a way so that these problems would not happen again...

And so, I gathered 13 lessons from these problems.

Setting out to solve the solutions, I decided to live by these lessons and follow them through. Step by step this allowed me to overcome my fears and get over some pre-existing trauma…

After all this was done, it felt like weight had been taken off my shoulders. But there was still some weight there… The world's other problems – which I’d never experienced, were still flying through my mind with pictures and visualisations. Disgusting images and scenes that were continuing to drive me crazy. And so, I decided I needed to be brave and write down these visions. And that led to my 8 values, which you will read very soon...

So, that gave me 13 lessons and 8 values, 21 answers to heal my mind…

By finding these 21 answers, I thought I was Jesus and I was determined to go on a pilgrimage to spread this message. The voices inside of my head were encouraging me and discussed the importance of spreading these values...

This carried on for a while. Until I realised, I am not Jesus. I am Oisin. And I have psychosis.
This made made me realise, these are not the world's values. These are my own values.

Now, I don’t know what your problems are, but I know you suffer from some… If you’re hearing voices, you have some sort of trauma… The time is now, be brave. Write down your problems, and find your own values…

I hope this helps you as much as it's helped me...


*EXERCISE*

Get a pen and paper and write this:

Why are you feeling down?
– This is your problem. Usually this will be a story that has caused you some sort of trauma, no matter how little or big. Eg; My friends left the nightclub without me.

How can you make this better?
– This will be your solution. Remember, you can’t change everything, but you can change yourself. Eg; I will let my friends know this upset me.

What can I learn from this?
– This will be your value. Find a lesson so that this won't happen again. Eg; Be loyal/Leave no one behind.


Here are the lessons and values I've learned from my self-discovery :
1) Be Trustworthy; 2)Be Loyal; 3)Be Decisive; 4)Be Honest; 5)Be Proud; 6)Be Audacious; 7)Be Respectful; 8)Be Emotionally Intelligent; 9)Be Financially Intelligent; 10)Be Grateful; 11)Be Compassionate; 12)Be Helpful; 13)Be Healthy

1)No to porn; 2) No to paedophilia; 3)No to Incest; 4) No to Racism; 5) No to Borders; 6) No to Cheating; 7) No to Bullying; 8) No to Hate

NB - These are just as an example. Find your own values. They will mean more to you.

Good luck!
 
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What values did you learn from this?
 
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