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Do i really have social anxiety?

Sloshiceangel

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I’ve been wondering much about if i have social anxiety cases, i’m very nervous, shy and socially awkward around new people, i’m never the first one to greet new coworkers or new people(i did greet my cousin’s new boyfriend, but i think it’s because he’s part of the family i don’t know, but i rarely ever greet someone i’ve just met).

I have difficulties making eye contact because it makes me very uncomfortable. And i’m not so social either. I wish i could be more social without being so shy or anything else.

But since i also have autism and are introverted i have many difficulties interacting with other people.

PS: I’m also overthinking a lot and constantly worries about everything.

I’m also worried about what people might say about me, my lifestyle, why i’m so different and my hobbies.
 
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I really like your post. Every time I read someone posts I can’t help but think it’s someone that’s trying to copy or get away from me. Modern day social media issue. Anyway onto you. Eye contact what have you done that’s made you feel so awful? what is there about you that know one will like? You don’t take me as someone that’s horrible I think your being pretty 🙏
 
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Avoiding people is one sure sign, and obsessing over what they think of you. Did you ever try an online quiz for social anxiety? Might give you a sense of where you are with it.
 
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I think that caring about what your tribe and friends think of you is natural 😀
 
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Avoiding people is one sure sign, and obsessing over what they think of you. Did you ever try an online quiz for social anxiety? Might give you a sense of where you are with it.
Yes i have. The result was extreme social anxiety, so i probably have a clear sense of where i am.

I mean i do socialize with close friends and family members. But i’m scared meeting new people.
 
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If its negatively affecting your life think about speaking to someone about it, getting some help...if you're managing okay it shouldn't get you down, some of us are just much more sensitive sensitive to other people and its not a bad thing 🤗
 
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Cool guys such a great thread. I was walking down the road and I heard children talking of the royals. Do you think with education and money everyone would be fine?
 
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When I was younger I watched the film Temple Grandin. Yes I think this person should get a counselor.
 
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When I was younger I watched the film Temple Grandin. Yes I think this person should get a counselor.
Oh my gosh really? I love that movie so much, it’s my favorite movie❤❤❤❤
 
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She is pretty and she is talking of animal care. I’m so happy that Temple gradin is intelligent. If someone sees me go near animals I feel ill cus it becomes like a film. Furry friends 😀
 
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Sorry she is not talking of animal care, that is her career. Anyway I really am an ugly women. I just thought maybe all the women made me ugly so I’m nice to animals. The world is mad 😠
 
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I am (I think) very similar Sloshiceangel. More so around your age. I think it gets easier as you get older.

I'm also high-functioning Aspie (apparently - a psychiatrist tested me once some 10 years or so ago but I never did anything with or about it). I'm 44 btw.

My worry is that other people are quite spontaneous in nature whereas I like to see everything coming. I can be thrown off by unexpected events or reactions and go into a sort of panic where flight or some weird, rude or inappropriate response comes in. I don't like or want any surprises. I think it's an anxious feeling of being in an environment where I have no control over too many elements. There's too many sets of eyes, too many opinions and too many reactions to glean. At my most social anxious where I was kind of agoraphobic and very crowd-averse, I'd sort of swoon and feel unable to pick out individual noises amongst the chatter if the feeling got too high. I was also full of overthinking and contingencies.

It got easier for me (generally) as I got older and was just a case of pushing myself into it more when I felt able (which wasn't all the time and was only in very selective cases). It took many years and is still something I struggle with at times.

The good news is that you'll never need to do school again and have that ''thrown in with the lions'' feeling again (I'm assuming that was difficult for you since it was for me, which might be a projection too far). New work - maybe - but that's never quite as difficult. It gets easier.
 
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This has been horrible sharing. I’m so happy. I’m going to art class. Goodbye and whatever 👿
 
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