• Welcome! It’s great to see you.

    If you'd like to talk with people who know what it's like

    Our forum members are people, maybe like yourself, who experience mental health difficulties or who have had them at some point in their life.

Do I need to know why I self harm in order to stop?

J

Jamalam420

Member
Joined
Nov 25, 2019
Messages
19
Location
Northern Ireland
Recently I’ve been wracking my brain as to the reason for my self harming, but even when I think about it I feel it could be any number of reasons.
 
F

FlowerBox

ACCOUNT CLOSED
Joined
Jan 7, 2020
Messages
893
Location
Here
I think to know why is probably the best way to be able to stop..how do you feel when you tend to do it? Do you feel frantic and antsy or sad or calm? How do you feel after, relieved? Guilty? Euphoric?
 
J

Jamalam420

Member
Joined
Nov 25, 2019
Messages
19
Location
Northern Ireland
That’s the thing, my feelings are usually so strong when I am self harming that I struggle to understand what it is I’m feeling and why. I think the main feeling I have is needing to be able to control something in my life, the pain I inflict on myself seems to be the only control I have in my life, I feel relieved after, then guilt and shame
 
00Bluejay7500 (was Scapes1986)

00Bluejay7500 (was Scapes1986)

Well-known member
Joined
Apr 10, 2020
Messages
4,761
Location
My house
There's not always an explanation for everything we do with our illness. It's a dangerous line. Our illnesses can make us do some not nice things to ourselves and others. Overcoming it isnt easy either. But the struggle can be stopped yes, by looking inside our own conscious or subconscious. I could be wrong, but that's the only way I believe helps. Self harm can be habit forming too, especially without knowing why. Just acceptance helped me stop a few times. Without rhyme or reason it can come up again and hook us with addiction, neediness, or pressure. Oh and it's never perfect when we stop. But what I found could be helpful is our memories!
 
P

Prycejosh1987

Well-known member
Joined
Jul 7, 2020
Messages
619
Location
UK
Recently I’ve been wracking my brain as to the reason for my self harming, but even when I think about it I feel it could be any number of reasons.
You need to go deeper in your findings and find the main cause and then work on that.
 
Similar threads
Thread starter Title Forum Replies Date
D I've seen a girl causing self harm on a live app,what should i do?,need advice. Self Harm Forum 3
sam999 i just need everyone to leave me alone Self Harm Forum 3
D Need help Self Harm Forum 1
Amber1964 Need support please Self Harm Forum 10
T Just need to vent. I don't really have many people to lean on when things get hard. Not that I trust with this anyway. Self Harm Forum 5
L I self harmed last night and feel ashamed and embarrassed again Self Harm Forum 3
C Self harm advice welcome please Self Harm Forum 3
L Dreams about self-harming Self Harm Forum 1
L what causes self-destructive behavior? Self Harm Forum 6
N Sleep Deprivation Used To Self Harm Self Harm Forum 5
MiniThoughts Any methods of distraction from intrusive thoughts that lead to self-harm? Self Harm Forum 10
L Self harm cheating partner Self Harm Forum 5
TheSadnessWillLastForever Is it supposed to hurt this much? *TW Self Harm* Self Harm Forum 7
A Self harm when feeling guilty Self Harm Forum 3
N Diabetics Who Self Harm (TRIGGER WARNING) Self Harm Forum 4
EarthChild Self harmed a lot today Feel like ending my life Self Harm Forum 8
J I just keep self harm Self Harm Forum 4
S I wanted to self harm but I couldn't bring myself to do it Self Harm Forum 3
G Self harming. Self Harm Forum 4
Luneup Fell back into self harm. Self Harm Forum 6
Hello513 I swear to never self harm, or attempt suicide again. Self Harm Forum 7
B Self Harm Addiction Self Harm Forum 6
maggie0123 started self-harming again Self Harm Forum 9
O Does the urge to self harm ever go away? Self Harm Forum 6
L Self harm Self Harm Forum 14
D Help: i talk to my self too much defending my abusers Self Harm Forum 3
Zardos I've Been Thinking Of Self-harming All Morning. Self Harm Forum 6
J What does it take for doctors to take my self harm seriously? Self Harm Forum 4
T self harming because im a failure Self Harm Forum 22
F I have recently started having thoughts of self harming Self Harm Forum 5
G self harm tonight Self Harm Forum 8
midnightphoenix please dont do self harms Self Harm Forum 3
L Self harm instead of suicide Self Harm Forum 28
J Have Self Harm Sores All Over Myself Right Now Self Harm Forum 5
midnightphoenix self harms Self Harm Forum 9
G Increase self harm when starting meds Self Harm Forum 3
F Why do people sometimes self harm on their face? Self Harm Forum 40
D Please get help for self harming as soon as you can. My story Self Harm Forum 3
R Self harm Self Harm Forum 2
G Self harm and A&E? Self Harm Forum 12
frenchiebpd I have a strong urge to self harm and don't know how to get rid of it Self Harm Forum 2
J Self harmed Self Harm Forum 261
T Self harm scars & prevention Self Harm Forum 2
D Struggling with self harm Self Harm Forum 9
midnightphoenix Nobody deserves self harms Self Harm Forum 2
T Self harming cause if worthlessness Self Harm Forum 9
C Self harm in my sleep? Self Harm Forum 5
N Trying to stop self harm Self Harm Forum 4
K Self harm thoughts Self Harm Forum 11
O Self harm for approval. Self Harm Forum 5

Similar threads

Top