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Do I Have Social Anxiety?

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MidnightMusician

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Hi All!

Do I have social anxiety?

Whenever I go out, I feel on edge, self-conscious and just unable to relax and it's noticeably different than how I feel at home. I become really quiet but doesn't stop me talking to someone if I bump in to them (know them.) Just generally around strangers if that makes sense.

It totally stifles my personality and dunno, wish I could stop it.

Thanks!
 
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sounds like you could have. labels like this didnt exist when i was younger. i am only just realising. the thing i think about 'social anxiety' is imo a lot to do with how we feel about ourselves. if we dont feel ok about ourselves then we never have peace within dunno if that makes any sense
 
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my dad used to say that everyone else is feeling anxious as well !
k so they dont have social anxiety like we do
but they do have it to different degrees
shyness, very very normal

people drink to ' break the ice ' !
madness, why do you need a drink to break the ice
just say you feel shy !

I say to people that I'm feeling a bit shy or nervous
it is disarming and puts the other person at ease

:grouphug:
 
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people drink to ' break the ice ' ! madness, why do you need a drink to break the ice
just say you feel shy !
I've never heard of that. Maybe it has something to do with after work Happy Hour and the bar crowd?

I'm not and never have been part of that kind of life, so I am just guessing.
 
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actually it might be a throwback to the 1970's come to think of it,
these days people are more accepting
when someone doesnt drink

I cant drink alcohol at the moment
because it cancels out the effect of my meds
and I feel drunk enough as it is !

:love:
 
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I've never heard of that. Maybe it has something to do with after work Happy Hour and the bar crowd?

I'm not and never have been part of that kind of life, so I am just guessing.
I haven't necessarily heard of people drinking to break the ice but I've definitely heard of people saying they drink to help them loosen up or to come out of their shell more.
 
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my dad used to say that everyone else is feeling anxious as well !
k so they dont have social anxiety like we do
but they do have it to different degrees
shyness, very very normal

people drink to ' break the ice ' !
madness, why do you need a drink to break the ice
just say you feel shy !

I say to people that I'm feeling a bit shy or nervous
it is disarming and puts the other person at ease

:grouphug:
Yeah other people may be anxious as well but doesn't make the way I'm feeling any better.
 
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I haven't necessarily heard of people drinking to break the ice but I've definitely heard of people saying they drink to help them loosen up or to come out of their shell more
That association with drinking must come from party-goers. I tend to think of alcohol as something to numb the pain.
 
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