Do I have rOCD or just don't love her anymore? HELP ME PLEASE!

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It'sMe

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Here is my story. I've been dating with my girlfriend almost 4 years ago. She's an amazing woman (we're 24, almost 25); I've lived a lot of adventures by her side; she thought me a lot of things and an amazing way of living life. I was her first kiss and I'm so happy because of that.

We have laughed, cried, kissed, hugged... all the things a couple could do, we did, except sex. We haven't had sex because she is Christian and she thinks (and feels) that sex before marriage is a sin; also, she wants to have sex only with one person. At firtst, I wasn't agree with that but now I understand and support her. I'm always saying to her that I'm not going to force her to have sex with me if she doesn't want (also, I'm virgin).

But, we have strengthened our love in different ways; she's the best team for living life and she's always supporting me to follow my dreams and I do the same with her, as I told you, we're the best team. We enjoy going to the movies, watching Netflix, eating fast food, going for a walk, talking about our problems and dreams, making jokes... things that couples do. I felt in love with her; I enjoyed a lot to be with her, kiss her and make her laugh.

A bad thought came to my mind. "I feel that I don't love her", that thought came to me on November; but I thought that was only in my mind like an obsession.

I thing I got OCD since I was a kid (not officialy diagnosed) but I got a lot of fears and doubts, like fear to get cancer (on January 2nd of 2019 I cried a lot because I thought that I had cancer and it was only a wound in my mouth); also, fear of being homosexual, compulsions of cleaning, religion, order, intrusive thoughts; I feel guilty for a lot of things (like watching porn), it's hard for me to make decisions and so on...

So, I was really depressed because I was thinking that I don't love her anymore; but that thought disappeared until February, it came back and stronger. So I Googled "OCD I don't love my gf" and rOCD showed up. I felt better but later, the situation got worse. I don't know if I really love her or not, sometimes I really want to have a date with her or watch Netflix in my house; but later, I don't wanna know about her and feel like I don't love her. This is pissing me off because I'm doubting about everything, sometimes I miss her and sometimes I don't. I don't want to work or go out with my friends; also, I think I'm depressed because I live with my parents and I'm in my house almost everytime.

I can't sleep and I'm thinking 24 hours per day if I love her or not, feeling that I love her and miss her and later, feeling that I don't. It's a nightmare! I always want to sleep because in my dreams I'm thinking about that and when I wake up, the anxiety starst in my chest.

Now, I'm doubting if it's ROCD, depression or lack or sex. I REALLY NEED HELP!

P. S. I play Fortnite since last year and also I'm wondering if I got addicted to the game.

I just want to be ok with my girlfriend, go to the beach and have a good time. I just want to be good with her forever but I feel like something is blocking me, that maybe I don't love her anymore and this feeling makes me very sad and depressed.

HELP ME PLEASE and sorry for my long text.
 
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Yodagirl

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Here is my story. I've been dating with my girlfriend almost 4 years ago. She's an amazing woman (we're 24, almost 25); I've lived a lot of adventures by her side; she thought me a lot of things and an amazing way of living life. I was her first kiss and I'm so happy because of that.

We have laughed, cried, kissed, hugged... all the things a couple could do, we did, except sex. We haven't had sex because she is Christian and she thinks (and feels) that sex before marriage is a sin; also, she wants to have sex only with one person. At firtst, I wasn't agree with that but now I understand and support her. I'm always saying to her that I'm not going to force her to have sex with me if she doesn't want (also, I'm virgin).

But, we have strengthened our love in different ways; she's the best team for living life and she's always supporting me to follow my dreams and I do the same with her, as I told you, we're the best team. We enjoy going to the movies, watching Netflix, eating fast food, going for a walk, talking about our problems and dreams, making jokes... things that couples do. I felt in love with her; I enjoyed a lot to be with her, kiss her and make her laugh.

A bad thought came to my mind. "I feel that I don't love her", that thought came to me on November; but I thought that was only in my mind like an obsession.

I thing I got OCD since I was a kid (not officialy diagnosed) but I got a lot of fears and doubts, like fear to get cancer (on January 2nd of 2019 I cried a lot because I thought that I had cancer and it was only a wound in my mouth); also, fear of being homosexual, compulsions of cleaning, religion, order, intrusive thoughts; I feel guilty for a lot of things (like watching porn), it's hard for me to make decisions and so on...

So, I was really depressed because I was thinking that I don't love her anymore; but that thought disappeared until February, it came back and stronger. So I Googled "OCD I don't love my gf" and rOCD showed up. I felt better but later, the situation got worse. I don't know if I really love her or not, sometimes I really want to have a date with her or watch Netflix in my house; but later, I don't wanna know about her and feel like I don't love her. This is pissing me off because I'm doubting about everything, sometimes I miss her and sometimes I don't. I don't want to work or go out with my friends; also, I think I'm depressed because I live with my parents and I'm in my house almost everytime.

I can't sleep and I'm thinking 24 hours per day if I love her or not, feeling that I love her and miss her and later, feeling that I don't. It's a nightmare! I always want to sleep because in my dreams I'm thinking about that and when I wake up, the anxiety starst in my chest.

Now, I'm doubting if it's ROCD, depression or lack or sex. I REALLY NEED HELP!

P. S. I play Fortnite since last year and also I'm wondering if I got addicted to the game.

I just want to be ok with my girlfriend, go to the beach and have a good time. I just want to be good with her forever but I feel like something is blocking me, that maybe I don't love her anymore and this feeling makes me very sad and depressed.

HELP ME PLEASE and sorry for my long text.
Hello and :welcome:.
First off I’m sorry you’re going through such a hard time with all the confusion if you love her or not. You said you haven’t officially been diagnosed. It does sound like OCD,but I’m no Doctor. Are you currently seeing a doctor? If not I would recommend you schedule an appointment with your GP and tell them about these issues. Hopefully they can help or give you a referral for someone who can.