- Apr 5, 2021
hello, I consider myself a shy person. I don't talk much espesially to the people I find attractive in any way (friendly or romantic). I often don't have a problem to ask a question a stranger or introduse myself if nessecary, usually after the other person introduses themselves first. HOwever I cannot keep the conversation going and I feel akward right away. I find myself talking more when being around mor shy people than me. However many times I have to plan the hole conversation up ahead in my head and when thiw happens I feel anxious. I find it difficult to send texts even to the people i fell close to or talk to the phone with strangers. Sometimes I feel like there is a wall stopping my from expessing my real self, stopping me from being real, from starting to talk, from forming connectionw with others. I am so scared that the will reject me even if they are rejecting me because I don't talk and seem so quiet. I do get anxious if I have to meet new people or people I want to get close to. For example last summer I reconnected with an old friend after she approached me first, but before we met i felt so anxiouw and i almost canceled it, and thiw isn't the only time. When i have to meet with the people from a club at uni the same happens or if I have to meet people I am not friends with and i want to become and I don't despise them or just don't like them. Furthermore I don't have many frieands and I rely heavily on my sister for arranging any social interactions with them. It is just very tiring because I want to live my life and this shyness is bothering me. I could not describe very well how I feel when I have to interact with people though, but I hope you can tell me based an your personal experiences, if what I am experiancing is mild social anxiety or just shyness. Do you believe I can overcome it or my live will always be like that?