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Discourage Partner Getting Themselves Discharged from CMHT



New member
Jul 21, 2020
Greater Manchester

I have some caring responsibilities for my partner, and I am looking for advice from other users on how to discourage partners getting themselves discharged from community mental health teams.

My partner has PTSD and severe depression, has active suicidal thoughts, and has recently started to develop disassociation and derealisation. My partner was with the home-based treatment team for a few months and has been transferred to the CMHT two months ago.

My partner wants to be discharged from the CMHT as they don't think they will get better, they don't trust their carer and staff at the CMHT (due to pass incompetence and staff problems at the CMHT), and they don't think the CMHT will provide the (long-term) therapeutical support that they need to get better (due to limited numbers of sessions available at the CMHT). Therefore, my partner wants to be left alone.

I strongly oppose that. I still see the value from the CMHT and believe they are making slow yet steady progress. Also, due to Covid-19, if they get discharged then there will be months of waiting list if they want to go back in the system again.

However, I share their concerns with the CMHT as well. For example, we recently asked for a care plan, but only given a very short document that basically says what my partner's current issues are - without any mention of what the future treatment plan is. There are also limited resources within the NHS, and I am aware that the systems is not fit to provide a long term support that my partner needs. I want to go private, my partner doesn't trust private services either / or doesn't know where to start from.

I want to know whether there are people here who manage their relationship as well as provide support for their partners. Also, if people can share some good practice examples of encouraging partner to stay put and not get themselves discharged from the CMHT, that would be appreciated.



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Nov 10, 2019
In my experience, the cmht practice varies in different counties. Some keep clients for years, some months. If they think they need to keep hold of a client, they will try and do that. If they don't feel it is essential the client stays with them, they will let them go and discharge them to their gp.

To get back into the CMHT, it does not take long *if the client needs their help*. Your partner can see the gp, and have a referral very quickly. If the CMHT don't feel the need is high, they will either refuse due to large caseload or see very quickly.

The waiting list for therapies can be quicker via CMHT, but not always. Therapies via GP can be better and faster. I think therapies via CMHT are longer term, but i might be wrong.

Is he/she on a waiting list for therapy/psychology? I think it would be useful for your partnet to talk that through with the GP.

It would be a shame to ask to be discharged when a therapy place might be better via CMHT.

Either way, there is help available. If somebody is not ready for it, wants a break from interference and needs to rest for a while, think, have a breather, then that is ok. Healing takes a life time, and some need to take it slowly. They cannot be forced into anything, they usually know instinctively what is helping them and what is causing them additional stress.

I have found life easier to cope with since discharging myself. The only problem some people then have is benefits, as being with CMHT, presumably it is easier?