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digging up trauma in therapy

spoon-racoon

spoon-racoon

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Today my therapist and I started talking about an abusive relationship I was in and it's gonna be a lot to unpack :( (actually like a few minutes in she got up to get a notepad because shit is getting real). I'm kinda scared about how talking about it is gonna affect my mental state right now, even though it's for the best. I've talked about other traumatic things but talking about this is the worst I think. I get shaky and I get this scared feeling and I can't even say their name and it's like they're here all over again every time I think about it. not looking forward to next week's appointment
 
somedaymaybe

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It's a scary thing to face and acknowledge something traumatic from our past. But it definitely does help in the recovery process. You're already showing strength by being in therapy and gradually talking about it, so well done. I wish you luck with your next appointment. :)
 
Kerome

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Yesterday I heard some female friends in a mental health group talking about all the damage men do in relationships. There was some talk about how some women can also be abusive, but it was generally acknowledged that it was not on the same level at all. So that was kind of an eye-opener for me, to see how they perceived that. I think women definitely get the worst of it.

But it still takes some strength to talk about these things for the first time in therapy. I’m sad it’s affecting you so much spoon-racoon, but I hope it does you good in the end to let it come out into the daylight and process it.
 
R_Sxo

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Hi spoon-raccoon,

I'm glad that you're able to talk to someone about it. It will really painful to unearth this memory, but it is worth it to relieve yourself of a lifetime of pain. Remember to take your time with it, and if you feel you can't go further on the day, you can always return to the topic another time. I think it will be good to get it out in the open!x

Much love <3
 
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Hi Spoon-Racoon,

Ha, I love that name. It's so courageous that you're taking steps to talk through your trauma. It's not going to be easy to open up and be vulnerable to your own feelings like that, but it will worth it! Even if you cannot change the past, talking about an event and forcing yourself to say a difficult name out loud again will help you restore your memory in a less intense way. Take a pace that feels right for you. One that you control. You're on the right path!

Xo Anna
 
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I admire the willpower you have to get things out of your chest and talk with a therapist. You are already many steps ahead of me.

I believe you also have the willpower to make it all the way through. As the elders say starting is the toughest step.

I wish you the best kind of happiness possible.
 
spoon-racoon

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I'm actually gay, so my abuser wasn't a man. I understand that men are most commonly the perpetrators of abuse, but people who aren't men can do some pretty awful things too. in some cases, it can be on the same level of abuse from a man. Your opinion is valid too, and I respect it! just something to think about :flowers:
 
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