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Did I do the wrong thing?

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5wimmer

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What would you have done?

I live in a sleepy small-ish market town, in the South West. A generally well off town, but it has a few homeless people.

A woman came up to me, as most of the shops were about to close, and shoppers had mostly gone home. She asked if I could lend her £10 so she could get her bus, or pay towards a taxi, to her womens' refuge in a major town about 20 miles away, saying she would pay it back. She said she had no phone to contact the refuge. I offered to call the refuge for her, but she said she is not allowed to or let others call.

She forced a hug on me, was unclean and showered me with compliments, which made me uncomfortable.

I declined to lend her the money and suggested the refuge must have a system in place for this.

She was gone like a shot!

Did I do what you would have done?
 
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schizolanza

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You probably did the right thing. I don't give money to beggars.
 
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schizolanza

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Although I do give food. But money for drugs is what they want.
 
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Pollypop

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You were absolutely right in not giving her money.
It would seem she was conning you.
Why be 20 miles from her refuge and with no money.
Refusing to let you phone I would say this was all part of the con.
I hope you checked you pockets and purse after that hug.
Well done for refusing.
 
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5wimmer

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I have bought a coffee for a homeless man.
Also, I give a Big Issue seller a pound occasionally, without taking a magazine.
 
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Pollypop

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I also give food and donations etc but never actual money
to an individual.
Don’t feel bad.
Her running off proves she was “up to no good”. X
 
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5wimmer

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Thank you to all who responded for putting my mind at rest.
 
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