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Dialectical Behaviour Therapy or Diabolical Behaviour Therapy? Part 1 – Interpersonal Effectiveness

Rowan

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Interesting, thanks.

DBT worked very well for me. I did find some aspects to be patronising or obvious but it does work well as a therapy for some people with BPD.
 
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I have been trying for 10 years to get DBT. I have involved my MP and NHS complaints and still getting no where :(
 
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I have been trying for 10 years to get DBT. I have involved my MP and NHS complaints and still getting no where :(
I find that so disgraceful I am constantly surprised at the bad care people on mental health forums are receiving.:low: I feel like I should be grateful for having good care but then seriously ill people should have at least adequate/good care on the NHS!
 
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Any care would be good. I am trying to raise the money to pay for it privately but fear I may just end up in massive debt :(
 
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Any care would be good. I am trying to raise the money to pay for it privately but fear I may just end up in massive debt :(
Have you looked at the online DBT groups? I think you can work through the Marsha L book online with other people. (I think so anyway.)
 
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I have read the book but didn't know there were online groups. Thanks for the idea - I shall see what I can find out :)
 
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DBT reads as so simple, but in fact its so hard to do. I am diagnosed with bipolar, but doing it and its really good IMO. Some is too simple for words, but then others find those parts difficult. I think its turning me around and I am trying to stop being at the beck and call of my mood swings.
 
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DBT reads as so simple, but in fact its so hard to do.
So true. I read the book before I did the DBT course and thought it sounded very simplistic but actually doing the exercises and mindfulness instead of my regular harmful behaviour was very challenging. I think it is relearning how to behave, if that makes sense.
 
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I did start going to guided meditation which teaches mindfulness and is run by Buddhist groups. At £4 a session that is cheap therapy, but I agree reading is the easy bit and trying to apply it is more difficult especially on your own without support.
 
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When I first did mindfulness, I thought I was concentrating fine and not getting any wandering thoughts at all. But as I became sensitised to my mind, I realised that I was actually wandering all over the place! Then unlearning those entrenched thoughts was SO challenging. I realised that every tiny memory, little fleeting embarrassment, created a violent response in my mind with "I must die now" or "I have to commit suicide". Way, way out of proportion.

Being bipolar, I am hoping so much that I can get ahead of the game with moods. Validating my feelings is the key here for me. So feeling tense, anxious and jumpy is something I need to acknowledge as valid and not just push away as ridiculous. These may be just that, a momentary thing and not important, but they could be important. So learning to say its ok to have those feelings and not deny them, give me more insight early on in the swing so I can deal with it with the skills.

But being sensitised to your mind which is the first step, for me.
 
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