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worryworth
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- Jul 27, 2008
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Some people think I'm dumb, some think I'm crazy and some think I'm rude but the thing that bothers me the most is when I can't make friends and even if I do the relationships usually don't last. It is so hard, I want to be likeable if not loveable. I want to be like those normal people at the parties having normal and intelligent conversation without being scare that they might say something that would hurt or embarress other people.
I love going to parties and meeting people but the problem is I don't know what is the right thing to say and the more selfconscious I feel the more outgoing I get and end up talking about things that are nonsense.
Last night hit me really hard when one of the guys at the parties said, "I would share my drink with you even if we don't get a long or see eye to eye' I never remember hurting this guy in anyway, not even after he told me that I had an argument with him about 3 years ago. I felt really bad for hurting this guy and not knowing it for a long time but I'm grateful that he brought it up last night and I got a chance to apologize even if I don't remember how and when I hurt him.
I'm not sure if I should just stay at home and disconnect from everyone or keep going out and continue to make a fool of myself by acting and saying things that are rude, dumb and stupid. I try so hard to make my outings as pleasant and polite as possible but I seem to fail because I really don't know how to act or what to say and end up hurting people or embarressing myself. Please help and guide me how to build my social skill. I value people and relationships more than anything in my life and I want to have what I value. If someone can guide me how to get rid of my problem and how to make and keep relatonships I would be forever grateful. Also what would you call my disease?. Many years ago I went to see a shrink, he called it maniac depression and prescribed me prozac. I took it for a year and got off it after the evaluation showed it did not help at all. Now I'm not depressed everyday just when I worry about things like what people think about me, what they say behind my back or omg I think I have said or done something stupid, rude and socially unacceptable at the party. Pease help and comment on my problem.
I have a feeling that some people have stopped inviting me to their parties because they are tired of me and my lack of social skill or because I'm boring.
I love going to parties and meeting people but the problem is I don't know what is the right thing to say and the more selfconscious I feel the more outgoing I get and end up talking about things that are nonsense.
Last night hit me really hard when one of the guys at the parties said, "I would share my drink with you even if we don't get a long or see eye to eye' I never remember hurting this guy in anyway, not even after he told me that I had an argument with him about 3 years ago. I felt really bad for hurting this guy and not knowing it for a long time but I'm grateful that he brought it up last night and I got a chance to apologize even if I don't remember how and when I hurt him.
I'm not sure if I should just stay at home and disconnect from everyone or keep going out and continue to make a fool of myself by acting and saying things that are rude, dumb and stupid. I try so hard to make my outings as pleasant and polite as possible but I seem to fail because I really don't know how to act or what to say and end up hurting people or embarressing myself. Please help and guide me how to build my social skill. I value people and relationships more than anything in my life and I want to have what I value. If someone can guide me how to get rid of my problem and how to make and keep relatonships I would be forever grateful. Also what would you call my disease?. Many years ago I went to see a shrink, he called it maniac depression and prescribed me prozac. I took it for a year and got off it after the evaluation showed it did not help at all. Now I'm not depressed everyday just when I worry about things like what people think about me, what they say behind my back or omg I think I have said or done something stupid, rude and socially unacceptable at the party. Pease help and comment on my problem.
I have a feeling that some people have stopped inviting me to their parties because they are tired of me and my lack of social skill or because I'm boring.
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