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Shawnus
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Hi
I'm in a relationship with someone who suffers from depression. We have been together for 9 years, living together for 7, and things have always had ups and downs but I have always tried to be there for her.
Recently she has been refered to a mental health clinic and had an evaluation and was prescribed mirtazapine. She will start seeing someone for 1 on 1 sessions soon. Since taking the drug things have went downhill to the point I have started to call samaritans just so i can cope.
She has got really irritable and overwhelmed with everything (more that usual). When we see the doc 2 months ago she was spending a lot of time talking to people online, she said it was her escape and she would try to be better with that. However, since then one guy has been telling her he loves her and she would be happier with him. I know she has now been telling this guy she loves him too but she doesnt want to leave me. I shouldnt know all of this and for my sins I have snooped just because I was getting so jealous of how much time she was dedicating to this "escape"
I havent confronted her about it, i'm ashamed of snooping and am so scared of losing her.
Its just now I wonder, how much is down to her pills, how much can she blame on depression, how much is actually just who she is. I need to talk to her but she shuts down on me, she will go lock herself in the bedroom and refuse to communicate with me. She says she tells me everything but she isnt telling me how much is going on with this guy, and she does tell me a lot but she doesnt discuss it with me, just tell me when she gets upset.
I could have probably wrote this better, its just these last two months have got so on top of me I dont know what i'm doing at the moment. I just want my fiancee to be happy
I'm in a relationship with someone who suffers from depression. We have been together for 9 years, living together for 7, and things have always had ups and downs but I have always tried to be there for her.
Recently she has been refered to a mental health clinic and had an evaluation and was prescribed mirtazapine. She will start seeing someone for 1 on 1 sessions soon. Since taking the drug things have went downhill to the point I have started to call samaritans just so i can cope.
She has got really irritable and overwhelmed with everything (more that usual). When we see the doc 2 months ago she was spending a lot of time talking to people online, she said it was her escape and she would try to be better with that. However, since then one guy has been telling her he loves her and she would be happier with him. I know she has now been telling this guy she loves him too but she doesnt want to leave me. I shouldnt know all of this and for my sins I have snooped just because I was getting so jealous of how much time she was dedicating to this "escape"
I havent confronted her about it, i'm ashamed of snooping and am so scared of losing her.
Its just now I wonder, how much is down to her pills, how much can she blame on depression, how much is actually just who she is. I need to talk to her but she shuts down on me, she will go lock herself in the bedroom and refuse to communicate with me. She says she tells me everything but she isnt telling me how much is going on with this guy, and she does tell me a lot but she doesnt discuss it with me, just tell me when she gets upset.
I could have probably wrote this better, its just these last two months have got so on top of me I dont know what i'm doing at the moment. I just want my fiancee to be happy
