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ZoeZoe

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Hi, I have BPD, depression, anxiety and some other stuff going on.
Up until a couple of years ago I didn't like being alone. I always had to ring a friend or find a family member in the house etc if I was ever alone. However now it has changed and my favourite times are when I am alone. I love sitting on my own, especially when the house is empty. It's my favourite time, and I know enjoying it this much is not very healthy. I'm curious to hear your thoughts on whether this behaviour is BPD-related or depression-related or something else related? Thanks guys 😊
 
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Because your favorite times are when you're alone DOES NOT mean anything's wrong with you. A lot of people are like that.

You mention it's not healthy. Who tells you that?
 
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Because your favorite times are when you're alone DOES NOT mean anything's wrong with you. A lot of people are like that.

You mention it's not healthy. Who tells you that?
I guess because I don't enjoy socialising 99% of the time, and love being left alone, I assumed that makes it unhealthy, because everyone I know seems to love socialising and chatting etc. I just LOVE being under the radar and left alone. Surely I love it a bit too much for it to be healthy? And I wonder if it's from BPD or depression or something else because I wasn't like this a few years back.
 
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I agree with purpleplum. I do not think it is unhealthy to enjoy being alone. I think it is brilliant because you do not have to depend on other people. You could be an introvert. Introverts feel drained in the company of others. Maybe you are more comfortable with yourself now and can enjoy your own company.
 
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I guess because I don't enjoy socialising 99% of the time, and love being left alone, I assumed that makes it unhealthy, because everyone I know seems to love socialising and chatting etc. I just LOVE being under the radar and left alone. Surely I love it a bit too much for it to be healthy? And I wonder if it's from BPD or depression or something else because I wasn't like this a few years back.
Don't go by what others do. Go by what works for you. As for not being like that before, people change.
You said you didn't like to be alone before. Why did you think that was normal? I would see that as someone who's not comfortable with themselves.
 
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I love being alone too. Socials drain me tremendously. Solitude recharges me and I crave it a lot.
 
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I love being alone too.

I think where the unhealthy thought comes from is that
there is so much written and said about needing a social
circle as one of “necessities” to avoid depssion.
 
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I usually thought I liked being alone
but this is getting too much now with the social distancing
its really starting to affect me seeing everyone in a mask
and more people are dying of things like heart disease
 
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