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Ryu4fly
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I (28) was dating this gorgeous girl (27) for 4 months, but ended things because It was killing me on the insider.
We met at a bar (of course not a great place) and really hit it off, but as we kept seeing each other I started to realize how much she took forever to text me and would leave me on read. Sometimes it would be hours, a day or at most 3 days.
We also only saw each other once a week, but always met on the days she was only free. Especially with the whole corona virus she had a lot of time, me on the other hand had to go to work everyday. She was great in person, but at the same time once she leaves it feels like she’s a totally different person than in person. I always initiated texting and also called but she never picks up (not constantly calling just like once in a while).
On our fourth day she uttered out that she loves me, but that put us both in shock cause she said she didn’t mean to say that. Then I told her what my intentions were, which was looking for an exclusive relationship, but to her she was telling me how a relationship is like practicing for marriage and wanted to take it slow.
Few weeks pass by and confused as to what we were and devastated, I asked her where this was going and if we were serious or casual and she told me it was casual cause she was thinking of marriage and kids and didn’t want to miss the opportunity to meet that someone and apologized for being selfish.
That killed me on the inside and I spent 2 day’s prepared to break it off and saw her in person assuming she would accept the fact that things wouldn’t work and end, but her reaction threw me off and she told me she wanted things to work and we spent 2 hours talking and she wanted time to think of either being committed or being casual. Cause I told her if we were casual I wouldn’t want to try as hard and not put her as a priority just like she hasn’t been to me which I guess made her very sad or pretending? She also said meeting once a week was enough for her and texting doesn’t define a relationship. This is coming from a girl that always talked about other guys and taking her phone into the bathroom when she’s spending time at my place. This was how bad I started overthinking.
Anyways, she texted me saying her she has a lot of time off cause of corona and can fit into my schedule, but I just couldn’t handle it cause I was confident and ready to end it. I texted her saying that I am worth more than just being an option and I would like to give her time to think, but I don’t see this working and these 4 months were fun, but I need to walk away from this.
She texted me 3 hours later saying how she didn’t want us to break up and how she felt very comfortable being around me and “confide in”. She understands what I am hoping, but at this moment she can’t give me what I want immediately and apologized for being selfish.
That’s when I left her on read, blocked her, deleted her. This was 3 months ago. 4 months seem short but I just fell deep.
Ive been trying dating apps but never get matched, I’m not the type who just approaches girls and being in Japan and knowing only 3 people here I just feel so lonely. The weekends hit me the hardest cause I realize I’m at home all alone no one calling or texting me. I just don’t know what to do anymore and she won’t get out of my head, I just want to let go of her. I don’t miss her, I’m not as angry anymore, but I just don’t know how to let it go and I’m scared I’ll be stuck in this rabbits hole.
We met at a bar (of course not a great place) and really hit it off, but as we kept seeing each other I started to realize how much she took forever to text me and would leave me on read. Sometimes it would be hours, a day or at most 3 days.
We also only saw each other once a week, but always met on the days she was only free. Especially with the whole corona virus she had a lot of time, me on the other hand had to go to work everyday. She was great in person, but at the same time once she leaves it feels like she’s a totally different person than in person. I always initiated texting and also called but she never picks up (not constantly calling just like once in a while).
On our fourth day she uttered out that she loves me, but that put us both in shock cause she said she didn’t mean to say that. Then I told her what my intentions were, which was looking for an exclusive relationship, but to her she was telling me how a relationship is like practicing for marriage and wanted to take it slow.
Few weeks pass by and confused as to what we were and devastated, I asked her where this was going and if we were serious or casual and she told me it was casual cause she was thinking of marriage and kids and didn’t want to miss the opportunity to meet that someone and apologized for being selfish.
That killed me on the inside and I spent 2 day’s prepared to break it off and saw her in person assuming she would accept the fact that things wouldn’t work and end, but her reaction threw me off and she told me she wanted things to work and we spent 2 hours talking and she wanted time to think of either being committed or being casual. Cause I told her if we were casual I wouldn’t want to try as hard and not put her as a priority just like she hasn’t been to me which I guess made her very sad or pretending? She also said meeting once a week was enough for her and texting doesn’t define a relationship. This is coming from a girl that always talked about other guys and taking her phone into the bathroom when she’s spending time at my place. This was how bad I started overthinking.
Anyways, she texted me saying her she has a lot of time off cause of corona and can fit into my schedule, but I just couldn’t handle it cause I was confident and ready to end it. I texted her saying that I am worth more than just being an option and I would like to give her time to think, but I don’t see this working and these 4 months were fun, but I need to walk away from this.
She texted me 3 hours later saying how she didn’t want us to break up and how she felt very comfortable being around me and “confide in”. She understands what I am hoping, but at this moment she can’t give me what I want immediately and apologized for being selfish.
That’s when I left her on read, blocked her, deleted her. This was 3 months ago. 4 months seem short but I just fell deep.
Ive been trying dating apps but never get matched, I’m not the type who just approaches girls and being in Japan and knowing only 3 people here I just feel so lonely. The weekends hit me the hardest cause I realize I’m at home all alone no one calling or texting me. I just don’t know what to do anymore and she won’t get out of my head, I just want to let go of her. I don’t miss her, I’m not as angry anymore, but I just don’t know how to let it go and I’m scared I’ll be stuck in this rabbits hole.
