Depressed forgotten alone unwanted

[Malfoy 13]

How do you cope with lost? Granted the person I lost its dead it they might as well be I'm not dealing or coping well it's been a year since my friend/brother moved out and I'm hurting so much. We don't really talk or hang out any more. we make plans but then his girlfriend makes him cancel. We use to spend everyday together. My fear of being replaced came true. I was doing better even made new friends but now they are moving away. And I will one again be alone. Seams like everyone gets to move on with life but I'm forever stuck. Depressed forgotten all alone unwanted.

 

[calypso]

I am sorry that this is happening to you. Is there no way you can make new friends through an interest of yours? I know that sounds easy but is hard. Can you not ring your brother directly and talk to him without his girlfriend interfering?

I know it all feels so low, I know that feeling and you feel that it will never change. I understand that every day feels like a struggle just to keep going. You are not alone on here. WE may be typing on a screen but behind that are real people thinking of you.

 

[Malfoy 13]

Not really we talked briefly his phone been cut off if I had a car I would just show up it his house. But his girlfriend made It clear I'm not welcome.

 

[Malfoy 13]

I finally realized I need to stop holding on to people family or not let them go

 

[sallimae76]

I finally realized I need to stop holding on to people family or not let them go

If they truly love you, they will make efforts to be in your life. It has to be mutual.

 

[Someoldguy]

I finally realized I need to stop holding on to people family or not let them go

I have found that as I've gotten older, it is harder to make and keep friends. When younger, I was more concerned about being popular, or accepted. As a result, I tried to be friends with a lot of people who were detrimental if not down right toxic to my well being.
I'm less likely to put up with much 'stuff' from people now, and I have definitely noticed that once you stop being everybody's door mat, your circle of 'friends' shrinks very quickly. But that's mostly OK. Again, those people were just using me anyway, and thereby making my problems worse.

Now, I'm not suggesting such is the case with your friend/ brother. All I'm saying is I think what you are experiencing is just part of life, and while difficult to deal with at times, you might find your better off in the long run.

Meanwhile, hang in there and don't be hard on yourself. This too shall pass.

 

[midnightphoenix]

They have to want to be in your life, by this i mean it goes two ways they have to try and make time for you, it cant all be one way, you putting yourself out for them all the time and them not trying to make time for you

we're all here for you

 

[Malfoy 13]

Well that hurts alot my friend was just here he dropped off him mom to see her boyfriend he lives in the same apt complex. But my friend didn't come say hello and I was outside. Good bye friendship

 

[midnightphoenix]

Well that hurts alot my friend was just here he dropped off him mom to see her boyfriend he lives in the same apt complex. But my friend didn't come say hello and I was outside. Good bye friendship

aww i'm sorry malfoy

 

[Fairy Lucretia]

I know it is not nearly the same ,but you have us xxxx

 

[JCPraha]

It is difficult to be alone. People are mostly unreliable. They come and go. I know the feeling quite well. Almost everyone has deserted me as well. I don't have an easy solution. I just try to find some cause or reason to live. In my case I help homeless people. I can understand how it is for you. I can be rather painful. It is for me.

 

[Someoldguy]

I don't know if Malfoy is still monitoring this thread or not, but I will add that the one person you must learn how to get along with is yourself.

So long as you are alive, you are the only guaranteed constant in your life. If you are having problems living with and loving yourself, nothing else in your life is going to matter.

I hope this helps. It was meant to promote thought, not reinforce negative feelings.

 

[Malfoy 13]

Yes I'm still here. But how do you love yourself?

 

[Someoldguy]

Yes I'm still here. But how do you love yourself?

There isn't a simple answer to that question.


If you don't love yourself, you're going to have to ask yourself why, and be completely honest about it. It does no good to ask someone else for their opinion, this is all about what you think about yourself.
Once you have done that, you have to decide if the thing/things you don't like are things you can and want to change, of if they are things you can not or are not willing to change. Again, this requires complete honesty with yourself.
Then, depending upon your decisions, you develop a plan to change what you can and will, and a plan to accept the things you can't or won't.

It takes time, patience and practice, but I've found the result to be well worth the effort.

I hope this helps you.

 

[Someoldguy]

None of this is easy. Exercising, for example. Many of us say we're going to go to the gym or start walking/jogging. Many don't follow through with it.
Likewise, identifying things you don't like about yourself is the easy part. Actually taking the actions necessary to change or accepting things for what they are and moving forward is the difficult part.