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Dufus
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Does anyone have any tips on dealing with being insulted, or even better how to behave so as not to get insulted in the first place !?
I am the type of person that can be self-absorbed, sensitive, self-concscious etc and recognise that sometimes my attitude can be 'not right'. But What really pisses me off though is that if you let this show in public for even one second many times there will be some complete stranger there waiting to call out "weirdo", "d***", "a******", "k***" or whatever, even though you are totally minding your own business and not even glanced at the insulter. It happens in various circumstances, sometimes a bunch of lads together, i can tell they are looking at me, and that makes me even more self conscious, and one of them will call out, in all sorts of other situations too.
It really ruins my days when this happens, and it makes me so angry and upset that I cant get these things out of my mind for days afterwards, trying to run over what i did wrong, could i have changed anything, what i would like to do or say to that person. It is often someone calling behind me back so i cant see who it was, or other times i just freeze when called and try to ignore the comment. This is what i was taught to do as a kid by my parents but i find this a totally weak and pathetic way of dealing with such things, that i habitually do and cannot change.
Sometimes I think yeah i possibly deserved that, other times i havent a clue what i did wrong.
This sort of thing happens every few weeks I suppose. Usually when i am just forgetting about one such incident, then another one will happen.
Anyone have any advice at all please ?
Incase anyone is wondering, Am i sure these incidents are not just voices in my head - yes I am !
I am the type of person that can be self-absorbed, sensitive, self-concscious etc and recognise that sometimes my attitude can be 'not right'. But What really pisses me off though is that if you let this show in public for even one second many times there will be some complete stranger there waiting to call out "weirdo", "d***", "a******", "k***" or whatever, even though you are totally minding your own business and not even glanced at the insulter. It happens in various circumstances, sometimes a bunch of lads together, i can tell they are looking at me, and that makes me even more self conscious, and one of them will call out, in all sorts of other situations too.
It really ruins my days when this happens, and it makes me so angry and upset that I cant get these things out of my mind for days afterwards, trying to run over what i did wrong, could i have changed anything, what i would like to do or say to that person. It is often someone calling behind me back so i cant see who it was, or other times i just freeze when called and try to ignore the comment. This is what i was taught to do as a kid by my parents but i find this a totally weak and pathetic way of dealing with such things, that i habitually do and cannot change.
Sometimes I think yeah i possibly deserved that, other times i havent a clue what i did wrong.
This sort of thing happens every few weeks I suppose. Usually when i am just forgetting about one such incident, then another one will happen.
Anyone have any advice at all please ?
Incase anyone is wondering, Am i sure these incidents are not just voices in my head - yes I am !