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Dealing with friend with depression (also seeking for advice)

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Michelle W

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My best friend, who is also my roomate, told me she is suffering from depression two weeks ago. I haven't been able to seek help from anyone, not my friends, not her or my parent... I have been trying hard to be more understanding everytime she told me she has suicidal thoughts. At first, she told me it was just thoughts... until yesterday, she said she bought something to hurt herself with and later threw it away... She said she just wanted to see the wounds...

So here it comes...

DEALING WITH A FRIEND WITH DEPRESSION 101
- WHATEVER SHE TOLD YOU, DON'T FREAK OUT, EVEN THOUGH SHE TOLD YOU SHE BOUGHT SOMETHING TO HARM HERSELF WITH

Well, FUCK YOU! Me freaking out was a fucking burden to you?! Seriously , how exactly did you want me to react to that?! You just dropped a 'suicide bomb' on me! I appreciate that you were fucking cruel and calm enough to share it with me, and honestly, I listened to it without saying it much at first. Then I told you I was leaving the town for a few days, I wanted to make you promise that you won't hurt yourself again in those days, and I was saying all that in a light tone. Yet you shouted at me and told me you were stressed out because my worries were too much for you to take and you were regret that you told me you were going to harm yourself...
Seriously?! Fuck that!!! I tried hard to stay calm to you and I tried hard to...
You know what... whatever... I don't fucking care anymore...

I apologise for the venting and profanity above... I'm just really stressed out and helpless...
 
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restlessthoughts

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I already had a friend like that, it's hard to try to help because sometimes we get shot down too. My advice is to stay strong, understand and show alternative exit. I hope it looks good with you
 
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Michelle W

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I already had a friend like that, it's hard to try to help because sometimes we get shot down too. My advice is to stay strong, understand and show alternative exit. I hope it looks good with you

Thank you for your reply.
I just want to know what is the 'correct' response whenever my friend tells me she wants to kill herself...
 
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restlessthoughts

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[QUOTE = "Michelle W, post: 1902466, membro: 84214"]
Obrigado por sua resposta.
Eu só quero saber qual é a resposta 'correta' sempre que minha amiga me diz que quer se matar ...
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Diga que você está com ela. e se matar não é solução. e que juntos vocês encontrarão a saída. Que ela é linda, que há pessoas que se importam com ela.
 
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carocaro

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I've been that friend with depression, so I know what it's like on the other side of things. She shouldn't blame you for worrying or act like your feelings don't matter because you're not going through the same thing as her. But I know when I get to a really dark place I don't think straight, I get paranoid that everyone hates me because I'm no fun, and I'm just all around not myself. She's probably struggling with that feeling too. It's not your job to cure her or take care of her but if she tells you she has a plan to commit suicide or self harm I strongly suggest you tell someone. She may be angry at first but when she eventually gets control of her depression, she'll understand that you did it out of love. You're in such a hard place with this, just remember to take care of yourself too.
 
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