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Dealing with a partner that has anxiety



New member
Aug 11, 2018
Hello Everybody,

I joined this forum yesterday due to requiring some support with regards to dealing with my partners anxiety.

We have been together for over 2 years, we live in a nice house, have a child each from previous relationships (both of whom live with us) and have good jobs.

My partner has anxiety and we’ve both realised recently that it’s been getting worse. After going to the doctors 3 weeks back she has been prescribed Citralopran which has made a world of difference although she still has her wobbles.

You’re probably thinking what the issue is then? Well, when she has her anxiety attacks which can be anything from an hour to 24, I struggle to deal with them and see the problem she does. Admittedly the issues she see tend to be our relationship. When I say I struggle to deal with it, I can get real nasty and get so frustrated I walk out the house whilst she’s in her most vulnerable position. I hate myself after and it’s putting so much pressure on our relationship we are at breaking point. I do not mean the nasty things I say and walking out on her breaks my heart on reflection but at the time that’s all I want to do.

I love this girl to the moon and back and everything else we have is great. I just need to get this right, and although it’s looks pretty easy to deal with, when you’re faced with it 3-4 times a week, it’s hard.

Has anyone else faced anything similar or can offer some sort of advice?



Well-known member
Feb 24, 2018
I was put on an antidepressant and given xanax (ativan, valium, whatever) when I had a panic attack. It has worked wonders on my relationship with my husband because it calms me down and allows me to talk instead of yell.

But I also agree with Poopy Doll, about walking out without saying anything. My husband does that sometimes when he knows that whatever he says will just make things worse. It gives him time to calm down and me to "chill out."

I know how frustrating it can be from both sides. Keep working together. Good luck!