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Daydreaming and story telling

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EazyL

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Hi guys I'm new to this sort of thing, but hopefully people with similar experience will be able to give me clarity on mine.
From as long as I can remember I've been a daydreamer, especially as a kid when trying to sleep I would make up story's about an experience or something I would have liked to do. As I got older I thought it was a bit strange and used to try to stop but sometimes my mind would drift back to it. And i would beat myself up for it. I am 24 now and although I haven't been diagnosed, I'm pretty sure I have anxiety and depression (I've been through some sh*t including jail) and a councillors also thought the same. I believe looking back on past experiences that I have had anxiety most of my life without knowing and my depression started about 4 years ago but I didn't come to terms with it until very recently.
So basically I will find myself making up a story or situation about the past in my head (usually about something I wish I had done or had done differently, Making up a whole different life, but like im talking to someone else in my head, no one talks back but I act like I'm talking to someone.. when I realise I'm doing it I will stop myself. Im not a liar or someone who makes up story's to other people. This is something that is exclusively in my head but I wish I could stop. And I don't carry scenarios on it changes everytime.(although when I was younger the story's did sometimes last for days, even weeks.)
Anyone else have situations like this and is it linked to the anxiety or depression?
 
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Y939

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I wonder if you might suffer from maladaptive daydreaming, like I do. I've been a daydreamer since I was 10 years old, but they might have been regular, more healthy daydreams until I got to 14, and mental illness really hit. At that point I started to have very dysfunctional daydreams that involved a different version of "me," a better version, almost Hollywood in perfection. I developed physical movements that I felt compelled to do while I was daydreaming, like pacing in a circle. It's good exercise, but walking round and round in a circle for an hour while daydreaming about a happier, funnier life and a more attractive, successful and desirable version of yourself is... not so healthy! I'm 28 but still daydream. I pace if I can but I can't so much anymore. I wonder if you do any pacing or walking too, or any other movements such as hand motions. Every maladaptive daydreamer is a little different in the way they daydream, and the kinds of things they daydream about. If it affects your daily life at all, if it sucks up a lot of time or makes you feel bad about yourself, then it's maladaptive and a problem. But... most maladaptive daydreamers don't want to give up their daydreams. It's escapism, and it's entertaining. I daydream about funny things that I wish I could do, because I feel so bored, lonely and lacking in joy. I actually smile and laugh while I daydream, which can be hard to conceal if someone else is around! I don't, in all honesty, want to stop the films in my head. So most daydreamers stay daydreamers. I think it can be controlled, though, if the consequences are severe enough. It's definitely linked to both anxiety and depression. General lack of enjoyment and fulfilment in life.
 
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kvolm2016

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Replaying a situation in our mind that we wish we had done differently is pretty common. It helps us sort through how we might actually handle it differently (and hopefully better) the next time.

Since you mention that you have not been diagnosed, are you working on that? And the counselor that you refer to, is that current or past?
 
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