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When you're dating someone (I'm not dating anybody atm), when is the right time to tell them you suffer with schizophrenia? Do you tell them instantly so they know what they're getting themselves into or do you keep it quiet for a while until they get to know you? Personally I feel like the second option would be like trapping the person you're dating whereas if they know from the start they can make their mind up as to whether they want to stick around or not. I'd rather be told as soon as I met someone, not as in that's the first thing brought up in conversation but I think it's right to be told on the first date, but I worry if I do that then I'll be single forever as it'll just scare everyone away. Any help on this topic would be greatly appreciated, Thanks.
 
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When you're dating someone (I'm not dating anybody atm), when is the right time to tell them you suffer with schizophrenia? Do you tell them instantly so they know what they're getting themselves into or do you keep it quiet for a while until they get to know you? Personally I feel like the second option would be like trapping the person you're dating whereas if they know from the start they can make their mind up as to whether they want to stick around or not. I'd rather be told as soon as I met someone, not as in that's the first thing brought up in conversation but I think it's right to be told on the first date, but I worry if I do that then I'll be single forever as it'll just scare everyone away. Any help on this topic would be greatly appreciated, Thanks.
i wouldnt bring up any serious topics of any kind on a first date. keep it very light and simple and fun.

definitely don't talk about medical problems, religion, politics, etc....
 
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I always wait a while
 
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Thanks for the responses, I'm just bad at dating in general so I'd probably have brought it up in conversation as soon as I could just to get it out of the way but by the sounds of things if I did that I'd be doomed to fail right from the start.
 
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one friend said the time to tell a women your schitzoprenic is when you've got them into bed and they've got some sort of emotional commitment

i've always admired his sucess with the women

and it's not fair the way women treat you if you do tell them
 
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Why do you have to tell anybody unless you plan to marry that person? Even in marriage, there are secrets. Why does one's illness have to be a focal point? I don't tell anybody unless I want to scare that person away. I don't think I would like someone to tell me all of their health problems unless there is a good reason. If I were listening to someone else's health problems the first time we met, I would wonder if they are ok and be able to continue seeing me. So, I would not disclose your illness until you are sure you are really serious with each other and even then why should it be an issue unless you expect that person to take care of you or have some sympathy for you. I don't see disclosure as a good idea- it is your private information. If you think that other people will be more understanding about your illness, then think twice before you disclose because most likely that person has no clue what you are talking about unless that person is also ill with a similar illness. So, no disclosure unless it is absolutely necessary.
 
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I think one way of looking at it is to mention it when the relationship starts to get more serious/intimate. Upto that point is it a factor that needs mentioning? What does everyone else think? :)
 
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someone with a mental illness. that isnt a opinion, it is a fact btw.
You ever date anyone with a mental illness? i have and again people have a right to know what they are walking in on and if they cant handle that, you are wasting their time and yours
someone with a mental illness well most people have a wholly inaccurate idea of mental illness from the media, if you tell them your keying into that

i've got a mental illness i've dated women with mental illness
 
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In my opinion there may also be some people who may use "labels" to describe someone in a derogative manner to other people...
 
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