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Dating someone with Schizophrenia

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blue_monday

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So I met a guy about four months ago. He lives in a nearby city. We spent about a month and a half texting before meeting up. Prior to our first date, we had shared a little about our struggles with mental health. He asked if I had anxiety and I said yes. I actually am diagnosed with BPD but didn’t want to disclose that information just yet. He told me he also struggled with anxiety and we had a little conversation about our experience with therapy

On one first date, mental health came up again and he told me he has schizophrenia. Of course I was accepting and understanding, but didn’t ask him any questions as I felt it was best for him to volunteer any additional information than for me to pry. He did tell me that he no longer takes anti psychotic medication but keeps some anti depressants in case things get bad


He’s told me countless times how beautiful I am, how he really likes me, how he wants to go on trips away with me and he’s even introduced me to a few of his friends.

Over the past two weeks I have noticed a change. He has been working incredibly hard and rarely has a day off. Last week I told him I had noticed he wasn’t as chatty via text and he apologised and told me that it wasn’t intentional and that he didn’t feel good within himself. I offered my support and told him he could talk to me. I even offered him space if he needed it.

Initially, he was hesitant to talk but eventually told me he felt as if work had made his mental health the worst it has been in years.

I haven’t heard from him in almost a week now. I sent a message asking how he was doing. When he didn’t reply, my anxious mind that fears abandonment freaked out and sent another message asking if I had done something wrong, and then asked if he was no longer interested in me. I regret sending those messages now as I fear it may have put pressure on him. I sent a final message apologising for doing that and explained I had been feeling anxious. I told him I would give him space and that I hope we can talk soon.

I am trying to get a sense of what may be going through his mind, although I appreciate I will never fully understand. I am quite serious about him and would like to understand this illness better in order to support him if we do have a future together.

He still hasn’t replied and I’m worried that I have fully scared him off. It’s all very nerve wracking for me right now as I can’t tell if he’s ghosting me because he can’t bring himself to tell me that he doesn’t want to pursue this relationship, or if something in his mind is stopping him from communicating with me. I have a feeling I could be potentially waiting a long time to hear from him.

Does anyone have any ideas about what he may be experiencing?
 
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llittlelostlady

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I don't know

I wish I could help you, and I hope you manage to sort it out

you seem sweet

please keep us informed
 
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blue_monday

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I don't know

I wish I could help you, and I hope you manage to sort it out

you seem sweet

please keep us informed
Aw thank you. I don’t know either. I could just be overthinking it all in my head. I will keep you posted
 
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