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Dating someone with Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder/Borderline Personality Disorder



Dating someone with Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder/Borderline Personality Disorder

Hey everyone,

I'm meeting a girl on Thursday, we have talked on the phone and she is lovely.
She has Emotionally Unstable Personality Disorder/Borderline Personality Disorder. She is now attending college and would like to do an NVQ in Health and social care. She sounds like she is moving on with her life.
However in January she was sectioned and she self-harmed herself. She also did a few drugs and swears she will never go back to drugs again.
She also has anger problems.

I really hope she is moving on with her life and trying to get her EUPD under control.
She seems to really be up for a relationship and we have a bit in common.

However, I'm a bit nervy about dating someone with anger issues and mental health problems, especially because my last relationship involved caring for my ex and his mental health problems. But also, I don't know how I'd cope if she harmed herself again or if she became angry.

I have EUPD and Bipolar Disorder but I am in control of my mental health at this point in time although I know I could relapse.

I'm going to see how things go but I am very iffy.
I don't mind helping her overcome her anger and supporting her recovery but I don't think I'm strong enough to aid her if she becomes extremely angry or if she harms herself. I know that sounds hypocritical because I have mental health problems myself but I need to find a stable partner and hope that I can remain stable.

Unicorns. x
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That is actually a subject we covered a couple of weeks ago in my group.

They do say that two people with MH problems tend to not be suited to each other especially with the fact that they do have a habit of triggering each other.

Personally I wouldn't someone with BPD like myself because I know how I can be like lol


Feb 16, 2020
So if two people have unstable personality disorder can you make the relationship toxic
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