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AA153

AA153

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Hi everyone. I have noticed that I have some issues with jealousy and saying things I don’t mean that assume mistrust. I currently have someone in my life I deeply love and care about but we are not really together and he decided to end it and stay friends until I stop being like this lol

Does anyone have any advice on where to start? I do trust him even though things I say sound accusatory. I just want to be able to stop myself from saying things I don’t mean that will be perceived negatively by the other person.

I don’t want to lose him because I love him whe want to be with him. But I am really difficult to love and be around a lot of times. Let me know if anyone can help. Thank you guys :)
 
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Zoe1

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hi AA153 :welcome: !

I think you have put all your eggs in one basket hun
this rarely works, even if some people appear to be like that
very wrapped up in each other , they probably are not

usually a romantic relationship only works
if you have other friends and family that you are close to

:grouphug:🌅🌻🍀🎶:)
 
JessisMe

JessisMe

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Hi everyone. I have noticed that I have some issues with jealousy and saying things I don’t mean that assume mistrust. I currently have someone in my life I deeply love and care about but we are not really together and he decided to end it and stay friends until I stop being like this lol

Does anyone have any advice on where to start? I do trust him even though things I say sound accusatory. I just want to be able to stop myself from saying things I don’t mean that will be perceived negatively by the other person.

I don’t want to lose him because I love him whe want to be with him. But I am really difficult to love and be around a lot of times. Let me know if anyone can help. Thank you guys :)
It seems like if being kinder and not so quick to rush to judgment is your goal you should consciously censor your words and behavior to reflect a gentler, more loving and trusting way about you. I wonder, though if this is the only reason he friend zoned you or if he was just using it as an excuse.
 
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Headingtothelight

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You really need to love and trust yourself, or you honestly won’t be able to trust or come across trustworthy . Take time to send telepathic love to him, without you needing to say anything... let him come to you .
U can change this around, ive been there . Stems from insecurity, vulnerability , low self esteem , Love yourself more than you love anyone else! x
 
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