Craft group should I leave?

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Pixieb34

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Hi, seems wrong to be posting this on here when people are dealing with serious problems but I need an opinion on a minor worry I have, I've got no friend in 'real life' to ask.
My cpn wanted me to join a ' craft group' so I did. I liked some of the women there,( though I don't like doing craft, I'm very clumsy with my hands, meant to have something called 'Dyspraxia' and prefer crosswords or reading) I kept doing it wrong and got shouted at by the leader of the group for ruining some expensive clay. The groups leader wants to make things to sell ( to fund the group) After I wrecked the clay house thing I was meant to be making my Voices got bad and I stupidly started crying, humiliated myself and left the group.
Cpn was mad and made me join another craft group, again I made a friend there. I was rubbish at making the stuff but it didn't matter because it was only for us to take home. But then this new craft groups leader announced that because we only pay £3 a session we need to make things good enough to sell. I broke some expensive glass thingy at the last session and she said I'd cost the group money and I feel like leaving this group as well as I feel stressed making stuff I've not made before, to sell.

But if I leave the group I will lose the friends I've made. I tried to just meet them for coffee but they brought knitting and tried to get me to be able to do it, ( I couldn't get hang of it as my voices kept confusing me) They said they don't want to meet and just talk/ have coffee as they get bored if not doing craft. I'm lazy and prefer just coffee and a chat. So I don't know whether to carry on going or not. Sorry for long post
 
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Hi,
Nobody should shout at you, your CPN should let you decide. Glad you've made a friend.
Not everybody's the same ability, the leader should get that.
Don't worry it wasn't your fault, the teacher is at blame for not teaching you better.
You will get better with practise, sorry about your voices confusing you.
Knitting can be very therapeutic, try practising at home with YouTube.
Take care
 
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That's true, no one has the right to shout at you, they should teach you. And making stuff to fund the group sounds like a bad idead because it looks like they are putting pressure on people who came there to learn new hobbies and have fun. I'd feel like a slave. How do they expect people to make things that will look good to sell if they're made by beginners? I thought they're supposed to have funds to run the group.

As for your CPN, they shouldn't get mad at you and I hate when people try to force someone to do something because they think it's good for them. You clearly don't enjoy crafts so maybe you could fins another relaxing hobby.

Also, sorry if I sound harsh but that's a weird thing to say that they get bored if they only have coffee with you and don't knit. I thought meetings are about you socialising. Maybe they feel awkward, I don't know. Maybe you could try to get to know them better by calling or texting them? Or trying to actually knit with them since they won't put any pressure on you because they want to sell stuff ;) I myself like crochet and decoupage maybe you could try that if you want to? I'm sorry you're going through all this.
 
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Should you leave? In my humble opinion, yes.

The thing about crafts and any hobby is that you enjoy them and then the rest follows. But enjoyment is the key. Sounds like they have an ulterior motive to their group which is to make money. If you're not so good, at the moment, surely the group is there to help you get better?

My partner does jewelry classes and there are some people who are pretty much professional there, they sell stuff all the time. They are always encouraging her to sell her works (which she hasn't done, and IMHO it is very good), but it is encouragement, not pressure. They should be trying to build your confidence and not pressure in to conforming.


I can understand why some people won't want to meet up though, especially if crafting is their "thing". It often takes a while to move past just having the activity in common and move on to being friends. Just like at work. I ride motorbikes and have bike friends who I get on well with, however we don't really meet up unless it is on bikes.

I would say it's a great thing that you have tried crafting, but maybe it's not your hobby, but good one you for checking it out! Maybe try something different, perhaps a cake club or something? This way you can do the stuff at home, then meet up, have coffee and cake and chat.

Don't let anyone make something that should be fun become a source of upset.

Keep at it though trying new things is good. You can work out what you enjoy or don't and knowing that can only be good.
 
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