- Jan 25, 2012
Total sense. And you're right, they were the adults, they were the ones with the responsibility to protect and nurture us, and treat us with kindness, and they chose not to. They chose to put themselves and their own feelings and comfort first.Hope that makes sense?
That sounds horrible the way your mother went into attack mode when you tried to talk to her. I tried to talk to mine too as an adult, and she went into victim mode. Apparently is was her not me who deserved more pity. She was more concerned about being exonerated for things she'd done wrong (in my view, definitely not in hers), and justifying her actions, than in actually admitting those things and recognising she could have done things differently. So it was a wasted effort on my part to try and talk to her. I never even bothered with my father, I knew he wouldn't have the decency to even listen to me, he would go into attack mode instantly. I don't speak to him now.