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CPTSD and relationships and adulting and...

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change

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Is it possible to maintain a romantic relationship with CPTSD?

That's complex PTSD; trauma that took place over years at the hands of my primary care givers.

I paid rent on time this month. Usually I pay it the day before. Automatically, the thought of talking to my landlord to pay rent made me suicidal. I am not sure why I'm wired this way. I really want to move out of state.

Self-analysis leads me to believe that my fight or flight got triggered, and that's why I want to move away. I don't know why I'm so crazy.

I am so crazy. I can't remember day to day details. Things that you're expected to remember. Names. Faces. Deadlines.

I'm losing my marbles. I really don't have enough to lose.

I dunno what I want y'all to do. Pray for me, I guess.

Thank You So Much!
 
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Ambivalence

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Yes, but it’s easier to attract unhealthy relationships if you have CPTSD. It could help that you invest time in your own personal development first before doing so, but you know yourself better if you disagree. I suggest you go to the website BerkeleyWellBeing and read on the articles about assertiveness. Master that first.
 
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Suprvixn

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I will pray for you! I believe you can and WILL see better days and have success at healing this beast of a disorder. These triggers, these confusing situations, all they are trying to do is communicate something to us. Some belief, some deep down seed that was planted and needing to be uprooted. I'm happy you're trying to figure this out, I like that you're thinking it through, but running away isn't the answer (funny coming from me as all I ever want to do is run! I don't, though).

Are you in therapy or do you take medicine? CPTSD/PTSD isn't a fight we can win alone. Asking for prayers implies you have some degree of faith. Have you tried joining a church, or maybe just checking a couple out? My faith helps me tremendously, I know my God is stronger than any demon I've faced. I pray for your healing, I pray for your mind and your heart. May God bless you and help you through this, and I know He will.
 
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Koe

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The path to salvation doesnt lie in more thought. People like us do enough of that, but away from thought. Distractions help greatly. The more hours you put in being not sad, the more your body gets used to and becomes wired to easily achieve that.

I hope things get better for you, and the only helpful tip i can give relationship wise: don’t push people away for weird reasons your brain conjures, you cant trust that thing.
 
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