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Autumn57

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A while ago I booked an appointment with a doctor as I’ve been struggling for a very long time feeling very low. I got tearful and upset during my appointment explaining symptoms. I felt so embarrassed when the doctor mentioned he thought depression isn’t a real illness and that anti depressants don’t work any better than a placebo dummy drug. I came away with loss of hope completely and didn’t know what to do or say. I’m struggling with so much and life feels bleak, almost like a heavy weight over me all the time. Is there anyone can reassure me antidepressants can work and are feeling better? Thank you
 
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Hello,that doctor obviously hasn't dealt with depression.I personally have not taken anti depressants but I have a friend who has and it does make them feel better but everyone is different,maybe book in to see another doctor and please try and stay strong.
 
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You saw the wrong Doctor. That Doctor is a fool with no understanding of mental illness whatsoever. Go and see another doctor, hopefully a psychiatrist, the person you saw is really not right. Antidepressants can and do work for many people. However, it is normally a trial and error period where one tries to find what works best. The reaction to different meds is highly variable, but they can and do help many people. They have helped me. Antidepressants are not a panacea, but they can be helpful to many.
 
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Hi,
Please try another dr, many things work for depression. Depression is a real disease and can be devastating.
I'm so sorry you experienced this dr, you didn't deserve that.
Take care
 
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I got tearful and upset during my appointment explaining symptoms. I felt so embarrassed when the doctor mentioned he thought depression isn’t a real illness and that anti depressants don’t work any better than a placebo dummy drug.
Are u serious? This GP could get done for this. I know you will think you cant and dont have the strength or confidence right now but....request a different GP at the practice. OR find out when this ones day off is and make an appt with another.

Im ashamed of ur GP. It is not your fault. It takes alot to go ask for help. Big hugs x
 
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May I also suggest you report this GP to a higher authority? I don't have first hand knowledge of the medical profession in the UK, but this 'doctor' doesn't need to be practicing medicine with such a poor understanding of mental health. As others have said, schedule an appointment with another doctor. I sorry your first experience turned out so poorly.
 
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Are u serious? This GP could get done for this. I know you will think you cant and dont have the strength or confidence right now but....request a different GP at the practice. OR find out when this ones day off is and make an appt with another.

Im ashamed of ur GP. It is not your fault. It takes alot to go ask for help. Big hugs x
It happened to my daughter. When she went to see a GP initially about anxiety, he told her basically that she was a bright girl and should just snap out of it. I can't imagine a more unprofessional and uncaring attitude, from a so-called qualified doctor. That guy should be struck off, just on the basis of that pathetic advice!
Btw we persisted anyway, and got referred to CAMHS, who diagnosed her with ASD and chronic OCD, along with the huge and constant anxiety problems.
 
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First of all hi, I noticed your name. Pretty similar to mine. I am a believer that antidepressant work. Are you bipolar? If you are just make sure you are also on a strong mood stabilizer. And go to a different Dr. Someone who actually understands mental issues. Take care of yourself (sounds like you are, but don't let a stupid Dr stop you!)
 
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It happened to my daughter. When she went to see a GP initially about anxiety, he told her basically that she was a bright girl and should just snap out of it.
Another one! These 2 GPs must be old school thinking. This isnt normal practice. They are not supposed to behave like this. Ever.
Snap out of it, not what your girl needed to hear. Theyre the worst words of all. I hope you were there with her?

Autumn please go back when that GP isnt there if you feel its too difficult to ask for a different one. Please persist x
 
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Sorry that happened to you. As others have mentioned, please do see another professional. Medicine helps me. I've been suffering from depression for most of my life. It's not the complete answer, but it helps. Therapy and self work are important too.
 
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Another one! These 2 GPs must be old school thinking. This isnt normal practice. They are not supposed to behave like this. Ever.
Snap out of it, not what your girl needed to hear. Theyre the worst words of all. I hope you were there with her?
My wife was there, but I wasn't. Probably a good thing really, as I would have tried to throttle him. Honestly though, can you believe a doctor has this level of unawareness of mental health issues? Absolutely the worst thing you can say is 'snap out of it'.
All we wanted really was a referral. In the end we got that from a more clued up GP.
 
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Awww this is everything I worry about !! I don’t get any medical help due to many of these kind of stories and my own experiences with doctors for minor health concerns .

I do believe you should not see this doctor again, report them and try and see a different one .. don’t give up 😊
 
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Honestly though, can you believe a doctor has this level of unawareness of mental health issues?
All we wanted really was a referral. In the end we got that from a more clued up GP.
No Hicks I cant, Mental or physical, they should both be approached the same. You know the UK program GPs Behind Closed Doors?...well what would happen if a GP talking like this was aired...
Glad she wasnt alone and that you got a better GP on board👍

Awww this is everything I worry about !! I don’t get any medical help due to many of these kind of stories
These are rare, please dont ever feel you shouldnt bother. You are entitled no question to help.
 
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A while ago I booked an appointment with a doctor as I’ve been struggling for a very long time feeling very low. I got tearful and upset during my appointment explaining symptoms. I felt so embarrassed when the doctor mentioned he thought depression isn’t a real illness and that anti depressants don’t work any better than a placebo dummy drug. I came away with loss of hope completely and didn’t know what to do or say. I’m struggling with so much and life feels bleak, almost like a heavy weight over me all the time. Is there anyone can reassure me antidepressants can work and are feeling better? Thank you
Change your doctor xx
 
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Sometimes doctors can make things seem worse than they are.

You need to see another doctor, and if that one is rubbish, see another.

It's a very outdated view.

I have not tried antidepressants myself but they work for a huge number of people, and even if they were not right for you, there are other solutions.

Do not give up - there is plenty that can be done to help you.
 
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